a desperate girl

[Girl]

Hello,
I am a new member here and I would like to share my story with you. I met someone some months ago. I liked him and the same he did. It seemed that we had a good friendly relationship. I started to see him in a romantic way and I felt the same he did. After some time, he told me that he had some relationships with men. He told me that he was confused with his sexual orientation. I felt that he may wanted me but he had to decide if he were a gay or not. All this period, he was jealous when I was telling him that I was dating with some men. He did not do anything. He was telling about his meetings with new men. Now, after almost a year, I am sure that the only thing he wanted was my friendship and the fact that I was a person whom he could say the truth about him. The problem is that I can not forget him. It is very painful for me...Just sharing my story....

[S. Earl Martin]

Romantic realtionships are alway's hard. Even if you find someone who loves you as you love them. Still merging 2 personalities and lives is very difficult. Although I know it can be done. My wife and I were married for almost 21 years. Keep looking and don't give up. Peace

[Girl]

thank you so much for your answer and I wish you to spend the rest of your life with your wife...

[S. Earl Martin]

She died in 2005 due to medical incompetance, but I will see her again on the other side. I still feel her presense sometimes. This world is only temporary. Peace

[Girl]

She died in 2005 due to medical incompetance, but I will see her again on the other side. I still feel her presense sometimes. This world is only temporary. Peace

oh!I am sorry. It seems that you had a good relationship. I just wanted to ask something. If it is possible, we have misunderstood someone's feelings...

[S. Earl Martin]

Yes, that is very easy to do. It is difficult to understand our own feelings many times. So understanding or interpeting someone elses is all the more difficult. Even if we ask someone how they feel? They may not know or they may change from day to day. Or they may lie to not hurt you or to get their way. The best method of success is to be as honest as you can with keeping others feelings in mind. And to find someone else who will do the same. To be willing to forgive when necessary and to put the others needs equal to your own. Sounds easy, but it isn't. This requires trust and commitment. That intales risk of being hurt, but the rewards of such a realitionship are worth it. To have someone who you can depend on. Who will stand with you no matter what is a reward in it self. I don't really know how this can be done other than to tell you my wife and I did it so I know it is possible. Good Luck and be blessed.

[Girl]

thank you!

[S. Earl Martin]

No problem!  I hope you find what you are looking for. Earl

[Girl]

I believe so!

[S. Earl Martin]

BLESSINGS!