Dreaming and thinking strange stuff, randomly. Need advices and opinions. :/

[psy_guy]

Hi everyone. I've haven't been dreaming much 'till a few months ago. Maybe half a year. And during the past two months, especially the past month, I started dreaming even more strange things. I'm 18 years old by the way.

I'm dreaming about my classmates, how I embarrass them, some of them. How i make friends with others. Also I'm dreaming about a girl, a pretty girl, who's in my class. I don't know her though.
Then I'm dreaming of stuff like some of my relatives...

Now here's my theory:
I'm dreaming of my relatives, because I'm worried about some of them. Some of the relatives.
I'm dreaming of my classmates... I know no reason. I wouldn't like to embarrass them. I would like to make friends with some others though, when I think about the "outer" side of the relationship, like being in a school and talking to them. But when I think about meeting them and doing something together, I don't want to make friends with them.
I'm dreaming of the girl, because she's pretty, and i like her because of that. However, I'm against liking people, which I don't know. I'm not that kind of person, who takes first look for the looks.

Am i right somewhere? And is there something I can do to not to dream about such things? I think not, but I'll give it a try by asking anyway. I feel bad about that in the morning. I'd rather not to dream anything.

Okay, now about thinking strange things: My mind sometimes gets randomly flashed by some disgusting, scary or some other pictures, thoughts... Like the girl i mentioned above. Some of my relatives dying (those I'm worried about, and i wouldn't like them to die), some of embarrassing stuff I've done in my life, which i regret, and I think how stupid i was to do that and not to stand for myself, my opinion. Then I countiously make some emotion, like disgust of myself, or something like that, belongs of the thought. Contempt sometimes.
Just like remembering random, bad stuff. Not good stuff, but exatly bad stuff, which I'd rather not to do again. About this - I've no idea, why i would be thinking it. I've some theories, but those sounds a little bit crazy, so I won't share them, at least, until someone will respond in some more professional opinion.
Also, what can I do about those memories? I know, I cannot forget them. But I possibly could prevent myself from remembering them. And don't forget, that they just flash my mind randomly on a random occasion. Like I'm reading something a little boring, or watching a very boring movie... Mind is bored, it needs to think about something... But well, anyway.

Hope it wasn't so bad to read that all, looking forward to the answers.

[acousticeagle]

Hi psy guy.
I've just been reading a couple of your posts to get an overall impression before replying to this. I'll reply to this and then some other ones you posted.

You're at an age where there's a lot of things happening in your life in adult development. You'll eventually go from school/college/university (whatever you want to do education-wise) to the workforce and possibly a wife, home and family. All these plans for future security are good for they provide for all practical considerations.

But there's another side of things that's also changing. And that's how a person sees themselves in the world; their own self impressions, the knowing of oneself.

I've thought about these dreams you're having and I think there are some unanswered questions that you might have about how you see yourself - and have seen yourself - in the world that includes other people. I think you might be wondering how you might end up in the future, but before that, I consider that you've come to a point where you need somehow to understand how you fit in socially with others.

From what I've read of this post and others, you are an introvert, someone who thinks more deeply about things than maybe you perceive others in your life do. Introverts tend to look at outward circumstances in the reflection of how they see themselves. There's pitfalls to this, of course, because you will have to nurture your own self-esteem, something introverts need to attend to at times. On the up-side of introversion is the creative mind, and seeing the world on more than a level of superficiality, or what could be perceived as what others can merely take for granted. I'm getting this from where you are talking about these "strange" thoughts you are having, which to me (an introvert myself) are not so strange. Your personality is probably going through a developement of a deeper perception of things, and you're finding your emotions are a bit on the tender side.

A good thing for you to try maybe is to keep a daily journal. That way you can go over the day's impressions and feel good about the sensitive person you are. If you are an introvert, and this I more than suspect, then you will come to better appreciate the difference about yourself and avoid unnecessary peripheral comparisions to other people.

[psy_guy]

I've thought about these dreams you're having and I think there are some unanswered questions that you might have about how you see yourself - and have seen yourself - in the world that includes other people. I think you might be wondering how you might end up in the future, but before that, I consider that you've come to a point where you need somehow to understand how you fit in socially with others.

That is a very good point. I do think about how I will end up in the future. I think also sometimes, again - random thoughts, that I do not like, about how I would've done something, If i would've said something differently, or did something differently. And what do you mean by "You need to somehow understand, how you fit in socially with others"? I mean, what you mean by that, and how could I do something like that? Maybe I will understand how to do it, after I understand what you exactly mean by that. English is not my native language, I've learned it myself also, so It's hard to understand something for me sometimes.

From what I've read of this post and others, you are an introvert, someone who thinks more deeply about things than maybe you perceive others in your life do. Introverts tend to look at outward circumstances in the reflection of how they see themselves. There's pitfalls to this, of course, because you will have to nurture your own self-esteem,  something introverts need to attend to at times. On the up-side of introversion is the creative mind, and seeing the world on more than a level of superficiality, or what could be perceived as what others can merely take for granted. I'm getting this from where you are talking about these "strange" thoughts you are having, which to me (an introvert myself) are not so strange. Your personality is probably going through a developement of a deeper perception of things, and you're finding your emotions are a bit on the tender side.

Well yes, I am creative, but only about things, that I am interested to.
And yes, my emotions are changing. They can change even a few times during the day. Especially, when I think about something, those rnadom thoughts, or when something happens, that reflects how I feel. But that's rare. Mostly my mood is changing daily. One day good, another bad, or two days good, other day bad mood and other things like that.

A good thing for you to try maybe is to keep a daily journal. That way you can go over the day's impressions and feel good about the sensitive person you are. If you are an introvert, and this I more than suspect, then you will come to better appreciate the difference about yourself and avoid unnecessary peripheral comparisions to other people.

By journal, you mean diary? Or journal like a journal? For my understanding a diary is a thing to express feelings, and a journal is a thing to say what you've done during the day. That's only how I understand them.