Emotional Strength

[warmblanket]

Im just wondering how can you be super emotionally strong, and function well.

Stressed, due to alot going on, that stomach and head physically hurts, feel dizzy and confused.

Does anyone know how one can study strong and get in flow without getting overwhelmed after 10 mins, fuse is blowing.

Plus, if it took triple the time to complete masters, do you think they take people into further postgraduate studies in third level education

[psy_guy]

Hm. Emotional strength can be understood double-way... First - be calm in tense situations, second - be calm about bad things happening to you. I think, the latter is very hard to do, especially, if you are living in certain circumstances. If you can force yourself not to think about it, you won't feel as bad. Or you can find some interesting activity, then you'll be happy, except if you won't be good at it, because of the emotional stress. For example, I am stressed out about a lot of things going around me, and I cannot change anything, because I don't have money, and don't have a good way to make money. This makes me stressed out, and feel bad. In my situation, even the interesting activity doesn't help, because my brains isn't working very well, and I cannot do the activity.
From my situation, I can advice you, to find an interesting activity, that won't require your brains to work, if you are in the same brain-situation, like me. And if the bad thoughts of yours will come back, just try to turn them away. That's not what I do, as my situation is related to money, which encaunters you a lot, but with your situation, it may work, since I don't know your situation.

Hope this helps, and wait for better answers, from psychologists, who's working this job...

[Outsider]

Im just wondering how can you be super emotionally strong, and function well.

Easy! Choose your genes.

(Not to be too flip, but durability, like most personality traits, is substantially heritable. What you should do is work with what you have - and it also helps to take time to meditate, to avoid conversations with people who will be draining or stressful, to relieve stress with exercise, and to stay away from caffeine.)

[gone]

You could try time management, it sounds like you're all over the place. If you need to study, give this work time, and like a job set aside so many hours dedicated to one thing only to which you should learn to focus solely on (this may take time and your mind may wonder, but it takes training & will work before you know it), and let nothing disturb you from it. Then set aside time for another task, without letting yourself or anyone else take your attention, learn to focus and refuse to be interrupted either by thinking stuff or by others trying to gain your attention.
Your emotional problems you must also address and maybe allocate an hour in the evening to cry,  work things out or write here etc..  
If you get into a routing (and that will come with determination & practice) and manage your time your head & self will become more organised and things will become much clearer and easier for you. Which will help you deal with your emotional problems while learning to focus of functioning. Give time to each but make a clear separation.

[warmblanket]

thanks, any ways to harness concentration, worn out a little, career n life n job prospects all messed up right now...

[voodoo scientist]

Emotional strength and emotional distance (and, of course, emotional deception) are often confused. Make no mistake: There is nothing inherently strong or weak about hiding (or exaggerating) a feeling of weakness or vulnerability; the measure of strength lies in your "authenticity," your perception of the relation between your cognition and behavior. Do you generally perceive your words and actions to be in line with your thoughts and feelings?

If not, then you'll be expending a lot of your available processing power in managing that inconsistency, interpreting and worrying about other people's awareness of that inconsistency, and so forth. On the other hand, if you perceive yourself to be highly or fully authentic, you have no real reason to worry about anything but a failure of competence (which is typically a much more direct and tangible problem - "I just need to get better at this!").

You can apply this to your study problem like this: How many hours a day would you say you devote to thinking about studying and career prospects, and how much time do you devote to studying and advancing your career? If you're not sure, make a journal or diary and keep tabs on how you spend your time. Then consider if you allocate your time this way because of a larger strategy, or because your environment has "railed" you in that direction by way of emotional distress, traumatic events, as well as anything else that has required you to expend time and effort on things other than your goals.

[SWM]

I am not sure how this is offensive. It seems like sound advice.

[warmblanket]

its actually a little undermining to say the least, didnt find your advice in any way helpful voodooscientist, perhaps it might  benefit someone else though. Also his choice of initial rhetoric seems a little insensitive

[voodoo scientist]

I feel that's a tad hostile reaction. Note that I never actually perceived your "authenticity" or "inauthenticity," nor did I even reference your actual authenticity: only your own perceived authenticity (however you see it). To be explicit, since you perceive yourself to be wholly consistent in thought, feeling and action (and thus, presumably, righteous in that), you should only have to resolve any questions you have about your own perceived competence relative to your goals. The only difference is whether you find you are interrupted from reaching your goals because of perceived lack of authenticity, or because of perceived lack of competence relative to your goals.

In my view, it's much more common for it to be a bit of both than just one or the other, especially as they tend to feed each other, but since you've just ruled out all but one possibility (perceived competence relative to goals), you can either decide to proceed accordingly and either improve your competences, lower your goals or maintain the status quo, or to reject the narrative that your problems are primarily rooted in either a misalignment of perceived competence versus goals or personal/emotional distress.

[warmblanket]

Think you need to caution yourself with the term 'authenticity' or 'inauthenticity', the inconsistency lies at the heart of this very ideal.
It has no real relation to emotional strength, it is relative to environmental factors and current state of consciousness.

my issue is what strengthens emotional strength. Your on a different track of thought, perhaps this suits your own agenda, but it is not what i asked.

[voodoo scientist]

The short version of what I tried to say is that there does not appear to be such a thing as emotional strength, just emotional problems. I suppose I should have gone to greater lengths to indicate the ambiguous use of the word than just putting it in quotes. In any case, I didn't mean to imply that you are inauthentic in a common-sense use of the word. However, if you still reject the narrative with that correction in mind, it seems I've failed to understand your question.