Lack of Sexual Plesure due to Mental Block?

[Trygon]

First off, I am a 17 year old male high school student. For various reasons I don't have easy access to any sort of psychologist so I am hoping that I can obtain some useful information here.

Ever since I realized what my penis was for I have been masturbating on a semi-regular basis. However, I don't get much physical pleasure from it. I am able to sustain an erection and ejaculate, but there is no moment of pleasure which I could call orgasm. Obviously there is some chemical release because any sexual stresses I was under will disappear after I am done, but I feel it is not as great as most people. I doubt that it is any physical disability, because I have actually gotten the orgasm feeling once a few years ago, but never before or since, even when I received oral sex from my girlfriend.

Here is some information that I believe may have been part of the cause. I developed late, but started looking at porn very early because an early-developing friend showed it to me. So, before I was even able to orgasm or create semen, I was stimulating myself. Once I was able to ejaculate (although there was no semen) I would watch porn and masturbate solely for the chemical dump that came with it. This has led to unhealthy habits such as masturbating in a couple minutes (literally) before class because I need to "satisfy the urge" or later in the day because I am bored.

It is only recently that I have fully accepted that this is unhealthy and have made a commitment to stop masturbating at least until I can find some explanation for this and move towards healthier habits. Any thoughts on the subject would be very much appreciated.

[pert -5]

Ever since I realized what my penis was for I have been masturbating on a semi-regular basis. However, I don't get much physical pleasure from it. I am able to sustain an erection and ejaculate, but there is no moment of pleasure which I could call orgasm. Obviously there is some chemical release because any sexual stresses I was under will disappear after I am done, but I feel it is not as great as most people.

Based on what you have said, particularly the section bolded by me, I suspect that your problems are related to unrealistic expectations of the sensation.  You say that there is no pleasure that "I could call orgasm."  How do you define an orgasm?  Does it ensue physical ejaculation or is it more towards a mental feeling?  What do you think the sensation of orgasm should be or feel like?  

[Patrickmeister]

I can write two things... A masturbation guide, or a mentality guide...

I won't write the masturbation guide unless you want me to, but, for now, I'll write a mentality guide.

See, I need some info... Are your parents rather liberal about sex/sexuality?
if so, there is no mental block, if your parents are not liberal, then, I would say that sex is natural, so, there is no taboo or anything...

I am, to be honest, somewhat of a sexual being. I did not have any problems like that, but, I would say, try, once, if you fail, try again, if you fail again, then try till you succeed.

I will give you some tip if you wish

[m00se1989]

I can write two things... A masturbation guide, or a mentality guide...

I won't write the masturbation guide unless you want me to, but, for now, I'll write a mentality guide.

See, I need some info... Are your parents rather liberal about sex/sexuality?
if so, there is no mental block, if your parents are not liberal, then, I would say that sex is natural, so, there is no taboo or anything...

I am, to be honest, somewhat of a sexual being. I did not have any problems like that, but, I would say, try, once, if you fail, try again, if you fail again, then try till you succeed.

I will give you some tip if you wish

basically dude just quit jerking off so much... and im sure it will stop cause I haven't ran across many people that walk around with a boner all day.... and try to screw your GF. or atleast have her give you head again and again and again cause she will get better at it. Just be sure to wear a raincoat for the first one!! am i allowed to say things like this on here??? sorry I'm new to the rules and I like the truth(=

[Patrickmeister]

hahaha nice answer

[hortonpilot]

Interesting....

the first thing is sexual function should be easy at your age.
A nice girl who is liberated and does not cause you grief , feck your head with associations that confuse your response is all that is required.
Take time to enjoy how nice it feels as a young person with another and just let yourself go.
These are the nicest years of your sexuality.

Sometimes we find ourselves with people who make loving very easy and other times with people we should not share a bed with.
From the sound of it , your having fundemental problems with something which should be very easy, i wonder what you are motivated by in life?

You need to look look at this now and at least get sexual function under control even if it means changing attitude and life-style.

What does your girl friend think is the problem?

Horton

[wittoled]

I don't believe that it's unusual/problematic for a 17 year old boy to masturbate several times per day.

In your case I believe that if you want to become able to enjoy sex you should consciously work on getting in touch with the apparently repressed part(s) of yourself that must enjoy sex or you wouldn't be jerking off all the time.  I believe a good place to start is for you to seriously try to first isolate and then get as clear a picture as possible of each and every aspect of each and every sexual fantasy, no matter how insignificant, that you have when you masturbate.  I suspect the completing this task will be especially difficult for you, but I 98.5% <g> guarantee that the reward will be WELL worth the effort.  Ahhh, to be 17 again 

I believe it may have been Woody Allen who coined the phrase, "sex is dirty, only if it's good."  I have no idea why you can't connect with your particular version(s) of "dirty", but I do know that if you can reconnect with that/those part(s) of your true nature that your life will become far richer than if you don't.  Your perceived imperfections are what make you unique/interesting/fascinating/human.  Being/becoming a good, happy/contented person worthy of self respect/esteem and/or a ticket to heaven (or whatever your goal might be) isn't about the nature of your sexual fantasies, or anything else about you, it's about what you do/accomplish in life for the benefit of others. 

[hortonpilot]

I wonder if you have problems with authority?

Sex is so personal  and should be for each person alone to not feel pressure.

I just ignore most people, i hope they don't realise.
Who knows  in this life but  if it is a bummer , walk away .

Horton

[susie23]

i would think that your 'over thinking' and that you just need to find a way to switch your head off see if your thinking about cumming or waiting to cum then your not enjoying the sensations so you might be cumming and not fully realise it (sounds dum i know, what with you being so young) but really chill out next time. good luck

[Voix_Celeste]

Ever since I realized what my penis was for I have been masturbating on a semi-regular basis. However, I don't get much physical pleasure from it. I am able to sustain an erection and ejaculate, but there is no moment of pleasure which I could call orgasm.

One quick remark and one question: (1) probably your expectations about the orgasm senstation are exaggerated; (2) are you perhaps circumsised? And if yes, for how long?

[hortonpilot]

As i said  before the body in young people is set up to enjoy sex and the sensations are very intense .

it is not that hard!


Horton.

[Voix_Celeste]

As i said  before the body in young people is set up to enjoy sex and the sensations are very intense .

Quite agree as long as the body is intact. This is why I am asking about circumcision.

[hortonpilot]

Words you will not want to hear?

As i said  before the body in young people is set up to enjoy sex and the sensations are very intense .

it is not that hard!


Horton.