The two perceptions that changed my life.

[Tomato_Can]

I've previously had difficulties, relating to social anxiety, relationships, relating to people in general, particularly women problems, and sex difficulties to some degree.

After some time, experimenting with various perceptions as regards self assertions and increasing ones ability to be ingratiating on a social level, the two areas which (when considered, should have been obvious) remaining are:

Be sexy

Be charming

For me, I've found being sexy is a very assertive perception for others to have of me, and very effective to make ones presence felt.

Being charming, increases approachability and negates any potential perception of arrogance etc.

I don't feel, having written this, that it will change any lives in an instant, as ultimately I believe, we're defined by what we do.
But simply as regards ability to relate, this two perceptions, simply incorporating them consciously, have turned my life around.

That is to say, and actually having discussed this with some of my friends, I don't feel this is gonna make anyone go from zero to hero overnight.

But as regards lack of direction and motivation as regards what areas to work on in terms of self improvement, these were the necessary ones for me.

[voodoo scientist]

Being sexy and charming has always worked out great for me. I would highly recommend it.

[Tomato_Can]

lol - oh yeah.

No egotism here, but I'm quite confident also.
(I'm a champion kickboxer - no egotism....)

I'm pretty sure that plays a large part.

But previously, I was just ignorant as regards what perceptions people find positive and attractive.

Well, now I know, and as I said, it's turned my life around.
So I thought this might be a good place to share it/get feedback on it.