I haven't found this in English books but i went ahead and translated this from Russian a few years ago because this information is very accurate. It's a little long but it's worth it.
Psychological Complexes
Twenty years of working with politicians and scientists, entrepreneurs and bankers, soldiers and lawyers, celebrities and writers have identified the most important: the human relations at all levels are based on the skillful use of psychological complexes by partners on each other.
Psychological complexes - those thin strings of human soul - obediently respond to all genres from skillful touch of the master. Psychological complexes, when triggered, the person becomes a non-critical, begins to behave like a child, obedient to the stranger's will. Because of these effects on psychological complexes these are the most effective means of manipulating people. It is no coincidence that the same has been said that truth is not in the speaker's lips, but in the ears that listen.
Psychological complexes – these are a kind of target, hitting that - your aim. There aren't so many of those, but enough to control people and achieve the desired goals.
One of the most powerful and effective - fear. Dozens, hundreds of varieties of fear can make a person act on the desire to weaken the fetters of fear or even get rid of it. Perhaps you noticed how often people have resorted to intimidation to achieve their goals from you. At least in our country, all the parents for the time being successfully use this tool available. And then even the adult falls for that bait. Fear of death and fear of an incurable disease, fear of exposure, fear of loss of prestige, fear of the future - it is all the bait, to which he gets caught when he is told: if you don't do this and this, you will lose that and that.
Curiosity. This popular proverb «Curious Barbara lost her nose» is the best way to show that this human weakness as curiosity – is one of the most common. And it means that it is used by all of those who aren't lazy. It's enough to say that you have some confidential information about a person, an object of interest, and he is - yours. Many are also interested in what is said and what others think about them, or what you personally know about them.
Greed. To buy something valuable, but not spending much, to get a lot of money, not making the special effort, save money in a crisis situation - all these are as natural human desires, as the steam from the earth after rain. We can refer to anything as greed, but it is a personality trait of many people. And it is also a double-edged sword - many get caught on their own greed. It is enough to encourage them to save money one way or another - and they will be ready to fulfill your wishes.
Superiority. Many fall to flattery. Art of making explicit and implicit compliments in such cases – is the most important weapon. It can be a compliment to the person - to express admiration for his enterprising, smartness, good looks. Can use the words of superlatives to identify a case which he does mention his success in this endeavor. Can complimentary respond about his wife, children, lover, dog. Finally, complementary respond to his car or country home.
Generosity. Generosity – is feature of our national character. Kindness, generosity of soul - these qualities are valued in weight in gold, but no one is being showered by it. And all because of these wonderful qualities of human nature, people often use them in the most abusive form. Enterprising extortioner will often enjoy the turn of speech, as the «do not have to be a penny-pincher - thank you a thousandfold fate», «we have to be kinder to people and they will also be the same to you», «you are a generous person, I know and only you can help me now»,« you are able to forgive the things that others can not», and so on.
Pity. Look at how many people with outstretched hands we have on the street, in transportation, the parvis. They feed on human compassion - a rare passerby does not feel pity for them, nor react to their plight by the most active way - giving money. To access our compassion, many dress up in unimaginable clothes, and their voices and speech – a bundle of suffering. Often - it is just a game for the audience, and many givers know that, and yet still get caught for pity and compassion. Yes, and how not to help impoverished old man or child, or disabled? Not in vain as we say: from prison and from the amount dont give up!
Blame. Do you react to allegations as «you sold people out», «you betrayed love», «you are a bad father, son, friend»? Are you guilty for the fact or not, and who are your judges – are a different question. Most importantly, if you can not remain indifferent to such statements, then someone has ability to use your psychological complexe of blame against you, perhaps even selfishly.
Masculinity. It is simple to affect the psychological complex of masculinity by forcing the following words: «Be a man! Look – everyone is pushing you around. For how long will they wipe their feet on you! You're weak, a rag, not a man! »
Femininity. To the woman the opposite is said: «You're a real woman - smart, beautiful, sexual, kind ...»
Justice. The desire for justice to triumph, is in each one of us, even though life teaches us the opposite. But this desire so inconsumable that it sometimes turns into a trap. And you throw yourself in the battle, only hearing the calling sounds, as you seem to believe it is justice. But in fact someone just tells you the following: «In what ways are you worse than Ivanov, Petrov, Sidorov? But they pass by you, betray you at every turn. They use your contacts, give your ideas for your own. This is unfair!»
Vengeance. As soon as you feel a thirst for justice, be aware - you can then be encouraged to revenge. Drop a couple of logs into a burning fire - a simple matter, but then the fire will be difficult to extinguish. Be careful when you are told: «You were betrayed. You are not valued. And you will bear it? These people should be punished, must suffer punishment! And the punishing sword is in your hand!»
Envy. Envy is like rust - it slowly but surely erodes human souls. And if it is sent to the needed place, it is able to eat even human life. It crawls into our minds as a simple point made by someone aloud: «We are all the same, but why is it that he has more of everything?»
Jealousy. Fighting with jealousy is difficult - it occurs spontaneously and is capable of removing everything in his path as a burning lava flow. And it is easy to cause it. It is enough for someone to plant grains of doubt in you, and they immediately grow thistles of suspicion and resentment. People can be jealous of their wives and husbands, brothers, sisters, children and even pets. Usually it is enough to hint: «I do not gossip, but you are my close friend, and therefore I can not keep this silent. Watch your husband yourself for a while - and your eyes will open ... »
Patriotism. A subtle play on patriotic feelings - this is your house, your country, your brothers-Slavs, etc. - immediately causes a response in human souls. A sense of patriotism can be burnt up to the extent that a person, not thinking, would give his life for the idea.
Sex, eroticism. Eroticism, sex - it is the same honey trap, to which even the cautious professionals fall prey. Few men are able to resist the stand such as a luxurious beauty. And in general, when talking, the man and woman always perceive the other person as a sexual partner. The most common human weakness is most often used in such areas as finding out things, business: to get secret information from the object of interest, or to collect compromising information, or for the purpose of exerting pressure on him.
«Weak». To some people it is enough to say the magic word «weak?» - And they are willing to perform the most insane actions. Their pride is usually fueled by saying: «Prove that you can do this. You are strong - not a coward! »
But it also happens, that the effect is multiple psychological complexes at the same time. For example, American businessmen with the inherent pragmatics claim: Russians are generous, compassionate, with a strong set of fault, but they are very well developed set of great superiority.
We can close our eyes to a lot, knowing that we will still achieve results, impacting on their weak points. Typically, they see the events fragmentary, and we already imagine the whole picture.
To truly protect yourself from someone else's influence, it is necessary first of all identify your weaknesses, that is, to acknowledge any of your psychological complexes. Doing so would be quite easy if you do not announce them publicly.
Consider the events of recent months. Have you done everything by your own will or served someone else's? If someone has manipulated you, try to determine - how, that is, through which of your psychological complex.
Lawyers, doctors, businessmen and many other people have successfully used human psychological complexes to get what they need from a person. I hope this helps you with your research.
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June 18, 2008, 10:55:55 AM
