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What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« on: November 05, 2010, 12:52:33 PM »
I like to read stories and experiences. I've observed odd behaviours in many odd people but will start with this one.
I saw this guy for sometime, over at his place once he picked up a small miniature guitar ornament off the shelf and brought it across the room and held it up to my face smiling (sort of implying look at this). I responded with something like 'O that's nice' and admired it. But even at the time I thought it a little odd he should purposely draw my attention to such an innate thing for no apparent reason. (what could possibly motivate him to bring my attioned to something like this?)

So deviating a little - but this is how my mind processes information - because I didn't immediately know the motivation for such action it remained with me somewhere deep in the back of my mind.

Anyway I later found he'd been seeing some other woman and this was a gift from her to him, I spoke with her and he'd dumped her after she loaned him some money, he thought nothing of her. She would call me a lot and mentioned she'd bought him a miniature guitar ornament for his birthday.
So my mind instantly recalled the time he purposely went out of his way to show me this guitar. Now suddenly there was a motivation for this action. And I suspected he would have 'got off' on rubbing my face in his secret life, his infidelity (which is perverse). If you know what I mean. He was dumped.

Fast forward a year (a long story but he came begging & I only agreed to see him on condition he took me to venise all expenses paid).. So I was seeing this guy again and one morning we woke up in bed and he was talking about protecting his property and himself if anyone should brake in. He said 'Open that draw there' and pointed towards the bedside draw on my side of the bed) so on his instruction I opened the draw (I'd opened it loads of times before being nosey but there was never anything interesting in there) but this time there was a weapon, I think it was a gun, I didn't bat an eyelid but because he'd given me permission to open his draw I saw it as an open invitation to route and ignoring the gun, went  to the back and pulled out some photogrpahs. (these photo's hadn't been there before).. I opened the packed of photo's and he tried to snatch them off me, but I got them and they were explicit sex photo's of an x girlfriend.

He hadn't expected me to find the photo's but he'd put them there purposely and drew my attention to the draw. Just like the guitar, he seemed to be rubbing his secrets in my face and enjoying it. I didn't just suspect his perversion I was now convinced this is what rocked his boat. I didn't care about the pictures or the weapon. What I took from this was his repeat pattern of behaviour that convinced me he got off on this weird thing. (I'm pretty sure no one else would have noticed this, but my personality observes behaviours, acutely).

There were many other examples I could give but I'll stop at the two as they alone tell the story. A very strange and a very perverse behaviour. Don't you think?

Please share your stories or observations of the strangest behaviours you've encountered.
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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2010, 03:58:52 PM »
Ok well don't then I shall converse with myself on the topic :-)

Strange behaviour number 2.
This guy I was seeing had an odd taste in clothes. He was 28 years old but dressed like a 60 year old. He styled himself on Don Johnson (miami vice style - white linen suit with sleeves roled up and white slip on shoes with no socks - the year was 2005) One day he arrived wearing a cricket sweater (Chariots of Fire, like - even though it was the year 2005) all day he went on about how 'cool' his cricket sweater was. I mean all day, like thousands of times. He was wearing it with a pair of beige cino's (even though the year was 2005)..
Well it was really uncool actually but I didn't say anything until the 2,000 time of 'How cool is this cricket sweater?' to which I eventually snapped and replied 'No it's not cool and I'm sick of hearing about it' and he was horrified.
He went crazy at me. Screamed at me that I knew nothing about style and his clothes were 'Timeless and classic' and he got a book of his shelf and thew it at me screaming 'There proof my clothes are cool, timeless and classic'...
The book was titled 'What Gentlemen Wear' and it looked to be a rather old book I asked when it was released and he said about the late eighties. I said times have moved on and the only people wearing the clothes in the book were people like Nicholas Parsons. I flicked through the book, there were many photogrpahs then a curious thing happened. I recognised a shirt, quite distinctive black and white, Hmm I though he's got one of those.  I flicked a page and there were beige chino's, another page and a jacket just like one he had, another page and a cricket sweater, realisation was descending, he came & sat by me as I looked through this book I said 'James, do you have all the clothes in this book?' he looked at the book and pointed to a picture on it, it was a red paisley dressing gown, then he took his finger and pointed behind me and I turned and sure enough there was a red paisley dressing gown handing on the door behind me.

He had learned how to dress from looking in a book.
At that point I said 'James have you ever wondered if you have Aspergers Syndrome'.

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2010, 07:28:40 PM »
I have a friend who thinks he is a nice person.  He thinks he is thoughtful and altruistic and all of that.  But the reality is that he is a boorish lout who would rather swing a fist than talk things out.  He fights with everyone who is close to him, and if you disagree with him you had better watch out.  And yet he doesn't see this in himself.  He manipulates his behavior in his mind so that he is the victim or "good guy."  If you plead ignorance to a topic which he is proficient in he will call you dumb and say you have no common sense.  Yet he will ask how to spell a word such as "picnic," and if you question why he can't spell it for himself he gets mad and says that you are being a conceited asshole and are lucky he doesn't kick your ass.
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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2010, 01:34:31 PM »
Thanks for sharing that pert, why would you be 'friends' with a person like that? he sounds like a bully and most of them warp reality to fit with their way of thinking as they are always right. I wouldn't say this is 'strange' behaviour though, in fact it's quite common.

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« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2010, 01:46:38 PM »
Here's another: Strange behaviour number 3

When I was 13 years old I got a new and quite a distinctive jacket. A week later my friend called for me wearing exactly the same distinctive jacket having gone and bought one. Well I wasn’t too impressed and everyone commented to me on how weird it was of her. It’s now like 20 years on & this is a repeat pattern of behaviour, she does everything that others do & not just me. In recent times she’s taken to using my sentences, I can’t say anything without her saying it back to me. It's just weird, uncomfortable & irritating.

She has done the same college courses (like flower arranging) as others she's been 'friends' with at the time, has the same wallpaper as another, every holiday she’s taken is because someone she knows went there before. Every single bit of her identity is taken from another. Even the dog food brand (and the dog). From the colour of her nail varnish to the CD's in her car, and her car. Absolutely everything.

She had a tattoo, I was surprised, it seemed out of character for her (having said that she doesn’t really have character), but it was a strange experience when I noticed the exact same tattoo in the same place on someone she’d just befriended.

She takes something from everyone. WHY? I need to know what motivates a person to do this.
I've always thought of her as an empty vessel. I've been wondering though if it’s because she is an only child, possible craving or missing the sibling thing and her copying is her way of identifying with another, in her psyche this would be ‘bonding’ of sorts. But it’s just f*****g weird.

Having stepped outside the box now looking in, I believe I gave her more IQ credit than justified. Conversation was never easy & I did limit topics & dumb it down but now realisation has descended that she's actually more simple than I ever thought. (I mean, what intelligent person tries on shoes then buys them thinking them a size 6, but had them upside down & they were actually a size 9.. but she only takes a size 5)

I wrote the above some time ago but have pasted it here as I since discovered the motivation for such behaviour is what I call IRRATIONAL FEAR OF REJECTION DISORDER as she certainly fits this bill. See here for more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14686-handling-fear-of-rejection/

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #5 on: November 07, 2010, 05:52:46 PM »
Thanks for sharing that pert, why would you be 'friends' with a person like that? he sounds like a bully and most of them warp reality to fit with their way of thinking as they are always right. I wouldn't say this is 'strange' behaviour though, in fact it's quite common.
Oh darn.  I forgot the "strange" parts.  I'll keep it brief.

This friend also doesn't bathe regularly.  I'm not talking once a week either, I mean like once every three to four months (yet he's married and has two children).  He also calls his wife to go into the bathroom with him EVERY SINGLE TIME he goes in there, at least every time that I'm visiting.  I find those behaviors to be a tad strange.

OK, I'm done.  :)
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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2010, 07:07:09 PM »
Ok, the bathroom bit qualifies as 'strange' lol.

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #7 on: May 23, 2011, 02:56:20 PM »
The bathroom incident with your friend seems like a depression to me. In a way, he stoped caring of how he feels of himself, while also ignoring the people around him and how they precieve him. But going back to the topics, sadly I haven't witnessed any strange behaviors...

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #8 on: July 06, 2011, 05:32:45 AM »
It might have been my own behavior.  A young man was knocking on a neighbors door and I told him the neighbor wasn't home from work yet.  He asked if he could wait for the neighbor and have a glass of water.  It was hot and humid outside and he didn't seem anything other than quite ordinary, so I said ok.  We introduced ourselves to each other and chatted for a while.  He noticed some religious books I had on Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism and Hinduism along with  a variety of history books.  He then began engaging me in conversation about ancient history.  So far, so good.  But then it went to relgion,  flying saucers and spectral visitors among us.  While the conversation took a bit of an unexpected turn, I didn't become unduly alarmed.  I just thought "Oh Well.  To each his own."  After all, I was (and still am) an X Files fan. The conversation was getting a bit convoluted, but finally, the neighbor came home and the visitor went to the neighbor's apartment. 

Meanwhile, the neigbor popped back in my place to let me know that I had just spent about two hours talking to a schizophrenic who had walked away from a mental hospital.  I look back at that and wonder why and how I could be so clueless. I didn't recognize that something might be terribly wrong.I keep thinking that if his behavior was bizarre, what was mine? 

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #9 on: August 03, 2011, 12:42:40 PM »
I used to know The Best Water Manager in the World:
1) Mr. H.H.G.Savenije  know laughing
2) sorrows
3)he knows his wife
4) and his mother
and that's all :)
He should finally deal with the fact that his mother raped him...

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #10 on: August 29, 2011, 04:06:43 PM »
I'm the strangest guy i ever known.

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #11 on: September 02, 2011, 04:19:02 PM »
Not sure if its people praying or my friend doing like 20min long rituals after getting OCD

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Re: What's the strangest behaviour you've observed in someone?
« Reply #12 on: September 06, 2011, 05:10:22 AM »
I have a friend who thinks he is a nice person.  He thinks he is thoughtful and altruistic and all of that.  But the reality is that he is a boorish lout who would rather swing a fist than talk things out.  He fights with everyone who is close to him, and if you disagree with him you had better watch out.  And yet he doesn't see this in himself.  He manipulates his behavior in his mind so that he is the victim or "good guy."  If you plead ignorance to a topic which he is proficient in he will call you dumb and say you have no common sense.  Yet he will ask how to spell a word such as "picnic," and if you question why he can't spell it for himself he gets mad and says that you are being a conceited asshole and are lucky he doesn't kick your ass.

I LIVE with a 19 year old who is this exact description!! OMG I just don't know what to do!

 

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