As a people...we want continuity. As we try to figure out society, we want an understanding. This understanding means changing anything takes us away from continuity. So, we try are best to understand everything around us and...we look comfort in our understanding of the world around us.
Once we understand the world around us...we can relax and say to ourselves, "Now, I understand. Now, I can relax."
The problem is...everything changes. So what does that do to an individual? We must re-evalute everything. This brings about fear. Am, I ready for changes?
So, the question is asked in our minds. "How do I cope with the changes around me?"
Now, we have a problem. The question is asked, "Can I take on the changes around me?" So we have two choices.
1. Do I accept the changes?
2. Do I not accept the changes?
Not accepting change.
You go inward. You isolate yourself from society and don't take on changes. Changes are enemies. "I want to stay in my world... the one I know. Changes are bad for me. I don't want to change. I want my world to be what I believe should be. What I believe is gold! Everything else is wrong. I want my world...and, I will fantasies it and live in this world. I will not accept anything that happens around me." Isolation and anxiety happens...
Or you take the choice and accept changes.
This perspective is not easy. It means facing change everyday and re-evaluating your world. Change is fact of life. "I must adapt to all changes around me. I must find them out and adapt to everyone and everything. I must be confident with all changes. I have the ability to do this. I have knowledge and the emotional capability to adapt to every change that happens in my world. You don't retreat. Seek out everything and learn and adapt to everything around me!"
People who have anxiety do do not want change. Change is an enemy. It means you are vulnerable. Some type of change can give negative consequences. These consequences can give emotional pain. Growing pains ,as you re-evalute everything around you. People with anxiety do not believe they can deal with this.
We all have to deal with change. We all have to accept negative concequences and learn from them. We are frightened of these changes and believe that we will not be able to deal with them. It will get the better of us. It's only a matter time before everything around us gets the better of us and destroy us!
What's funny is most anxiety suffers always change...they see themselves change with everyone they meet. Whne they are done with that.... they remember doing it. It should bring on self-confidence...telling us we can live with everything that happens...even engative consequences.
But, we don't want that. We stay in our rooms, our homes.... and, stay away from anything negative. Anything negative is our enemy! we don't want anything to change. everything in an OCD room is esactly how you want it. Neat and clean or messy...because you no where everything should be and be able to find it. If you can't find it. You have fit...where is it? Have gone through this. I do it all the time! My place is messy...but, I remeber where everything was...until I don't find it...and have fit. Our world is what we make... and our world is in this small SAFE place!
I do not want to leave it! Never!!!
You wonder why everyone around you can just do it. They shrug anxiety as if its on their sholders and they brush it off! It's gone! So, they just go through life!
But, we can't do that. We we don't have the ability to shed it like a skin from snake and just let it go....we keep it. Everyday. Every moment. Every time!
Welcome to anxiety. Change is an enemy...you don't want it and you do anything to keep change from happening in your world.
Answers? I have many. Have I done them? And completely shed this problem?
No! Having the answers is one thing. Actually doing it... is another story. Can help you. Yes! Can I do it myself... sort of!
Helping others with what I know. And, maybe.... I maybe can find my own answers. So, we are all in the same boat. Trying to help each other. If anything I say helps you...let me know...because maybe my answers...I can to heart.
The most important thing is I suffer like you do.... and your not alone.
Change. A terrible word! We don't want it! Everything is exactly so!
So, anxiety sufferers? Phobias? Social anxiety? Obsessive thoughts and compulsions?
Your not alone. I guesss that is the best medicine. Knowing your not alone and finding answers.../
Let's do it togethe... shall we?
Let's make change...something we cna deal with?