Controlling yourself

[psy_guy]

Hi. I've been thinking about conscious and unconscious mind since I've made a very, very wrong theory about something in someone else's life. It didn't affect anybody, In fact, the guy wasn't even a guy I know. I just like figuring people out.
I've felt very bad about this, insecure, since usually I made good guesses or slightly wrong... And this time - it was a complete misunderstanding.
Anyway, in conscious mind I'm thinking that it's nothing wrong, everybody makes mistakes, occasionally big mistakes, even geniuses with 200+ IQ. (yes, we can argue about IQ's significance, but that was just an example) It some kind of self-therapy almost. I don't do this often, in fact, I don't remember doing it, except when I was a kid. But it doesn't work.
Why? Because the power hides itself in the unconscious mind.
Now the question: how can I control myself? How can I not think like this and just convince myself without all this non-sense? Unconscious mind is stubborn, how can it be used? Tricked into thinking the other way?

This is really important to me, because last time I've been thinking like this for over a month. It wasn't the same reason though, but it really affected my every-day life. I can't think about what I am doing, I'm thinking about something else, about how I screwed up this thing. It's similar feeling as being in love, I think. I have never been in love or had a girlfriend though... I don't want to screw up the next 2 months of my life just because of a stupid reason.

Thanks.

[mark159]

Learned Behaviour is what I would suggest. Make a concious effort to ask your self should I/shouldnt I before making those judgements.

It will be difficult at first but as long as you keep it at the front of your mind and practie it everyday you will change your behaviour.

As for tricking the Unconciuos mind? I dont really think that it can be done. Your unconcious mind is who you are on a basic level. But the one thing I can say is that by learning new behaviour will change who you are on a basic level!

That is all in my own, humble opinion!

Good luck!

[loriemasey]

Try doing a behaviour modification. Changing socially unacceptable and destructive act to a socially acceptable. Learned behavior is a good thing to practice as well. Doing a behavior that you have observed that you find it to be beneficial to you in some way. This is not a natural behavior, instead it is learned by that being. Something you learned way back from your teen boarding school, in a public school or from your friends.

Learned behavior in this sense can mean almost anything, from the way we dress to the way we speak to the food we choose to eat.

[ErikAndersen]

I'm a neuroscientist by training, have you ever been examined for AD/HD?

[hortonpilot]

Control?

We know what we should do and sometimes why, but can't take the right course of action.

Sums up the human condition?

Horton

[Worsen]

Hello everyone.I am new member here.I don't know it is perfect place for discuss this or not but i want to discuss.I am very upset with my habit.Some time i feel very bad and feel so much stress on my mind.With this i become angry with anyone and feel anger on a little matters.What should i do for this? How can i control myself.Give me some suggestions.

[pljames]

Controlling yourself is a excellent topic. Either you control you or you do not. There's a excellent topic here called "Power and control". Learned a lot from it. Rethinking why I do not control (me). Why, I recognize my (low self esteem) I have allowed? I have the answers. I have to do some deep seated rethinking and revaluate the why's. Like where did I lose me? What happened and why? What are the benefits of finding me and regain control? Just a thought. pljames