Failed as a brother

[Jesse Jones]

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[liza123]

Is she is seeing any doctor for her problem? What about medications?

[hortonpilot]

Interesting.

Why do you doubt yourself?

You can't possibly be held to account for her behavior.

She really is a long way from normal and reasonable behavior. I doubt you can save her and would think your best bet is to get on with your life.

What happened to her to make her like this?


Horton

[SWM]

@ungaurdo

hi,
i understand how you are questioning your repsonsibility in this problem that your sister has, but you now have the insight into this situation and are in the position that you can repsond to her with awareness of her problem rather than reacting to her behaviour.


schizophrenia might make people act in a bizare way but schizophrenia does not make people jerks. you do not have to put up woth her behaviour just because she has schizophrenia and even if her behaviour is because of her schizophrenia she should still be held responsible for it. the legal and medical system will hold her accountable for her behaviour and you should not be allowing her to play you. are you able to be consistent, showing her that you are her friend and her brother, and not allowing her to walk over you or take advantage?

[aboynamedsue]

"I admit that I treat her very poorly and criticize her every time she does something out of the ordinary. I grew up with my siblings shunning her so I followed that behavior to this day. I feel guilty shunning her but it has gone on so long that reversing it would be hard."

Stop being an ASSHAT. Just because you have made fun of her for her entire life doesn't mean its too late to change! Man up and apologize to her! SHES YOUR SISTER!

[hortonpilot]

Boy-Sue  points out something very positive, that change is still an option.
Making fun of her has led the situation further down a path and perhaps fired the situation.
Perhaps just start the day in a different mode toward her and not go back, then perhaps she will react differently?


Horton

[Billy_27]

Your sister seems obsessed with cleanliness and also seems slightly paranoid. But there's nothing wrong with her that you need to be concerned.

I admit that I treat her very poorly and criticize her every time she does something out of the ordinary.

Treat her nicely. Maybe something's wrong with you as well? 

[spring]

 What kind of talk do you usually talk?

[Vortex]

If she also has delusions, the red light is probably tied into one of those and is some form of defense against something she imagined. I don't think long term exposure to red light can cause problems but you could research it on the net. If she is delusional, it's understandable that very little will make sense to you since you don't know what her current delusion may be. It can change often but usually there will be a recurring theme. If you could approach her in a way that reassures her you wont judge or ridicule, you may get her to open up to you about what she's experiencing in her mind. Understanding that would help you to understand many of her actions that seem off the wall. If you're actually interested in that, I would aproach it slowly and be patient, it'll take time to gain her trust.

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