help!!! i don't know how to deal with my husband!!

[confused_wife]

thanks in advance for taking the time to read this! 
 
i am so confused because all this is pretty new to me, my husband was diagnosed 3 years ago with  paranoid delusion sz episode.
he thought everyone was trying to set him up and put him in jail and it got so bad that he threatened suicide and i called the cops and he was admitted to a hosp where they evaluated him and then sent him to an in patient facility where he got the diagnosis.  it took about a week for him to get the right meds and was sent home as an out patient. he seemed fine when he got home and went to one appt with the out patient and then decided to get off of his meds. i didn't support it but i let it play out and watched him like a hawk for any changes in his behavior...well 3 years later he is still off of the meds and never went back to the doctor and our life went back to normal, well untill 3 weeks ago i noticed he was not eating or sleeping much and withdrawing from everything, he came home one day and said he needed to talk to me about ppl at his work trying to set him up and that he was going to jail for life. at that moment i knew what was happening and tried to convince him over and over that he was having an episode and these things were not really happening. needless to say that didn't work so i convinced him to go to the emergency room to try to get him some help. he was admitted to a different place and it has been 3 weeks and i still don't notice a difference in his behavior. he called me the other night and told me that he had just been interrogated at the hospital for a murder and gets so frusterated that i don't believe him. i don't know what to say to that..sometimes i get so mad that this is happening and even though i know he can't control it sometimes the anger is directed at him. do i keep trying to remind him that this is all in his head?? i don't know what to do and i feel like my life is falling apart we have 2 kids and it takes all i have to try to keep them from knowing what is going on.  i just want to know how i can help him? if anyone has any advice or anything please share it..

[Colby Anderson]

What would you like to happen?

[confused_wife]

What would you like to happen?

i was just hoping for some advice on how to handle this from someone who has been through or is currently going through the same thing...again thanks for taking the time to read this!

[SWM]

Hi confused wife.

what an awful position to be in. at present you want to tell your husband that what he is experiencing is not real. there is a problem in this because it is real, in your husbands reality. by disputing this with him you are positioning your self as a source of conflict within his reality, aand this conflict may become incoporated in to his paranoid ideas.

how could support him that does not conflict with his paranoid ideas?


on another note what concernsyou about your children knowing that their dad is having dificulties?