My Family is a mess

[Lesly]

I am 37 and I have four children and a husband. My husband has been to anger management and has spent time in the phsych ward twice. Once for attempted suicide. I myself have never been happy and now hardly leave the house. My eldest son who is almost 21 cannot hold a job and has been suicidal for about eight years. He has a problem with rage. He blames god for everything. We are not a religious family and yet he is very preocuppied with it. He is searching for answers. I worry (because of his anger) that he may end up in jail. My daughter who is 18. Honour roll student, graduated, asks me to help her and yet can't express how she feels. My daughter who is 16 has been in and out of hospital for depression. Cuts herself. My son who is almost 14 has panick/anxiety attacks spent a month in childrens hospital. He was diagnosed with school and separation anxiety. Could never get him to go to school. He complains every day about chest pain and palpatations. Every day he thinks he will die. The doctor is checking his heart and lungs and doing follow ups, but I think they are anxiety attacks. None of them know how to make new friends. I think they feel inferior to others. They have friends that they made when they were small. From a very tiny community which is where they grew up. I don't know how to help them. Are we all mentally ill? Or were they effected by my husband and I. I am at a loss and have just now realized that I can't help them because I don't know how to help myself. We have always been very close. The kids never want to go anywhere. They stick to me like glue. Never want to join any sports or groups. The oldest smokes pot, but the others are not into drugs or even cigarettes. There is so much more to this, but don't really know how this forum works, so I will wait and see.

[daftcow]

Hugs.

I think that you should speak to your GP about this.  Maybe he can refer your family for some sort of therapy.

[liza123]

for now, cheer up...sometimes, we think that our problems are greater until we come across someone who has much worse than that...
counselling helps...there are some organisations that provide free counselling...enroll yourself and children for some counselling..it might help if you could get your eldest son to talk to a priest or sth about his religious issues...

finally, look at the postive side of things...there is always a postive side if you really look...being positive and having faith helps much...