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Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« on: June 19, 2009, 08:03:50 AM »
Hello,

My wife who is a mature 43 year old woman sucks her thumb all the time.     It really annoys me,
since we have teen (16, 14 and 12) year old children.   Every time she sits to watch TV,  she
sits on the passenger sit in the car,   she sits at the computer,  she starts sucking her thumb,
like a 2 year old baby.     With the other hand she starts playing with her hair and curlying
it around her index finger.      Very WEIRD for me.       This has created problems since she
does not like me to be on her saying:   "don't suck your thumb, you will damage your teeth",
but she keeps doing it.

Is this an addiction?   A childhood psychological trauma,    is there a problem with her personality
or brain?       Should I relax and just live with it forever?        I really do not think it is normal
behavior.

Please advise before I go crazy.

Thank you.




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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #1 on: June 19, 2009, 11:39:50 AM »
A nice guideline in clinical psychology is "Does the client think it's a problem?" and "Does the society think it's a problem?" It seems to me, that the answer in this case to both of these questions is "No".

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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #2 on: June 19, 2009, 12:23:32 PM »
Yeah, it's really no big deal. I might even put a few bucks on her stopping if you genuinely stopped caring about it - it could easily be a control thing, and a much better one than say, overeating.

Really, don't worry about it.
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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #3 on: June 19, 2009, 10:44:46 PM »
Thank you very much for the advise.    It seemed to me that something had to be wrong in a
person who is very professional and that makes public presentations / conferences,
but when she's at home something happened with her behavior,  so I was concerned
if it was something to worry about.          I will then give up on putting attention.   Though,
I can't stand it (she's an adult), so maybe I will do something else while she's at it.

Best regards... and thank you again for your time and opinions.


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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #4 on: June 19, 2009, 10:48:22 PM »
It seems like you are wise not to make too big of a deal about it. But there's nothing wrong with you sitting down and chatting with them about it. Perhaps they'd be willing to appease you or compromise in some way.

I've always thought a good friend is one who makes their opinion clear and then loves the person no matter what they decide.

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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2009, 01:46:41 AM »
Thank you very much for the advise.    It seemed to me that something had to be wrong in a
person who is very professional and that makes public presentations / conferences,
but when she's at home something happened with her behavior,  so I was concerned
if it was something to worry about.          I will then give up on putting attention.   Though,
I can't stand it (she's an adult), so maybe I will do something else while she's at it.

Best regards... and thank you again for your time and opinions.

If she's a career woman, it's almost a classic case. In simplified terms, you can think of it as a pressure valve - while she's at work and putting her self worth on the line, pressure builds up. When she comes home and relaxes, pressure decreases via this valve. It might seem weird, but most people employ "smoking," "substance abuse," "infidelity," "over-eating" and a number of other, much more unpleasant models of pressure valve.
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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #6 on: May 13, 2010, 06:35:22 PM »
maybe you should start sucking your thumb.. see how she reacts. maybe shell see how stupid it looks... or maybe youll see how beneficial it can be :) hopefully both of you dont swap the habit

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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #7 on: May 14, 2010, 10:26:03 PM »
... or maybe youll see how beneficial it can be :)
Exactly.  What do they say?  "Practice makes perfect."  ;)
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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #8 on: May 29, 2010, 01:03:13 AM »

As voodoo scientist says ........
As well stop focussing on it.

Could be she does it to shittt you off and annoy you?


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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #9 on: October 26, 2012, 12:26:24 AM »
Don't laugh. That's exactly what my girlfriend did to try and get me to stop and, guess what, she ended up liking it too! She sucked her thumb until her teen years so it was like reawakening her old brain pathways. Now we cuddle together when watching TV, both sucking our thumbs. Ya never know.....

maybe you should start sucking your thumb.. see how she reacts. maybe shell see how stupid it looks... or maybe youll see how beneficial it can be :) hopefully both of you dont swap the habit

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Re: Wife (43) sucks her thumb like a 2 year old baby
« Reply #10 on: October 31, 2012, 07:29:21 PM »
Maybe she has a wish she needs to tell you or someone. Sounds like she has something on her mind all the time and no one has bothered to find out what it is.
Instead of takeing her to see people you be the one to go out into the world and bring her wish to her.
All guys do it so don't let your love for your wife drive you away from her.
Just be careful not to stray from her when you go to find her wish and be absoultly sure that before you start that it is the thumb sucking wife you love you are doing it for and to whom you desire to be with when the wish is granted.
Take care.
All the best and remember to keep it simple.

All things deserve a second chance

 

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