Psychology of mating / attraction - an experience.

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There is a lot online about the psychology of physical attraction, all text of which are theories/experiments etc.. but no experiences or stories so I thought I'd write a line or two about a recent experience of mine.

About 4 months ago I was at a social event and turned around and chatted to some guy who was there. We chatted for a while then a friend came over, I left the event and felt it had been nice to have an intelligent and interesting conversation with someone.

Last week I was at another event, and he was there, the two events very different subject matter, anyway we chatted and stayed together even though I was with a friend and had friends there we sat & talked together.

Here's the interesting bit, while in full flow of conversation, I began to notice what seemed like a bit of my brain kicking in and like a machine was logging and assessing information about him (this wouldn't happen with normally) it was totally involuntary and it felt like my brain was taking snap shots - think of a robot (terminator like) when the machine focuses on an images, zooms in, takes a picture, scans it.. It was systematic, robotic, mechanical.. I shall describe it in more detail.
Snap shot of one of his eyes
Snap shot of shirt
Shap shot of his knee in jeans?
This information was captured involuntary & sent to a place in my brain I'm not too familar with.
That was the visual
The same strange thing also happened with
His mannerism
His reactions
His language
It was all logged and sent somewhere.
In recent times I've taken to examining my own psychology and I'm quite aware of it, and I think why I became aware of the process above. I'm not easily attracted to people, looks do not attract me, and I've probably fancied 3 guys in my entire life, so what was happening, I was aware of what was happening as described above, but why was it happening?

I'm focusing really hard on work and the last thing I want is a relationship of any sort, I am not interested in romance/one night stands/fliring/sex/men or whatever. But it seems like I don't have a choice, I felt like merely a casing for my brain, my brain had seen something it wanted, completely bypassed my conscious and took pictures to see if it was suitable. That's exactly what it felt like.

Anyway we had to shut up chatting and he nudge me and said he'd like to continue with the conversation afterwards to which I nodded in agreement. But when we got chance to speak again other friends joined me and I had to leave, I could see he panicked abit and asked how he could email me, a friend pointed out to him how to contact me with the details he had, which was a card I'd wrote a few interesting links on. So I left. A day later I recieved an email from him saying the conversation had been left unfinished and thanked me for the links which he found to be amazing. I replied briefly. And I think probably that will be it until we bump into each other again.

I've thought a little about it since, we obviously have two similar interests as one was arts related and the other knowledge based, yet we talked about non of these but another subject of interest to us both.
As far as looks go, he's incredibly handsome but I only noticed this when one of my freinds pointed it out, he's intelligent and charismatic, but for me communication is key, and that's why I think I enjoy his company.
I thought it was interesting what I observed happening in my unconscious (that I've become conscious of) with regards to attraction. I hope we'll remain friends but I have to wonder if that will be possible when my brain seems to have other ideas, like mating  (against my will - I'll have you know)..

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How did he smell?

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Ahh good question. I didn't 'notice' a smell. But had he smelled the chances are I would have been put off. ie: smoke, aftershave, body odour, curry etc.. not good.
A no smell man is essential.

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perhaps he did smell but your brain knowing that you did not want to smell him blocked out that sense in order to have its wicked way with you both.

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I, it's possible I suppose. It was odd though, just like my brain was measuring him up as mating material.
I felt like nothing more than decorative casing for my brain.
In the past I've felt something similar in being totally detached from my brain, like [I'm] just a vehicle for it, to progress.
If you can understand it's like this:
In the beginning there was a brain. And this brain grew a casing to protect itself. It continued to develop and grew a whole body that could run from danger, that could pick fruits and feed it, that could explore and feed it the knowledge it craved. [We] are nothing but shells, that serve as slaves to satisfy the orders from the brain.
We may be deluded in thinking we are as one, a whole both body and brain is one. But this delusion serves to protect both brain and body, as if one becomes impared the other will suffer, so the delusion of being one, keeps both in optimum performance. ie: if i cut off my arm, it wouldn't affect my brain except that it woud make it more difficult to feed and protect the brain, so loosing an arm does impact upon the brain. So we are fooled into believing we are one, because it's of benefit..
When a person thinks like this, it's possible to detached yourself from your brain and see things in a whole different way. An interesting thought if nothing else.
Actually maybe I do just need to get laid to stop thinking up such shite.. :-)


(Edit: Ahhh I know why i'm thinking this. I was at the dentist earlier and I had a filling (note: without aneasthetic) and this was tooth that two other dentist insisted was extracted, 6 years ago and 4 years ago. This why I listen to my body, and not people weather they're doctors, dentist or what. He said I should have a back tooth removed and I said 'Not today' and asked if he'd ever had a tooth extracted to which he said 'No' and I said 'Well it's like having a finger removed, you are taking away pieces of my body and it's a traumatic experience, that I first have to come to terms with, then greive the bit of my being that's been removed'.. I appologised for being his worst patient ever. But guess that's where the thought above came from.)
My dentist didn't have an odour either.