Happiness is the lost paradise
I have received SMS contain " happiness is the lost land , it does not discovered yet " . this phrase lead me to write about happiness and search for this treasure .no one can make one someone happy , no one can make happiness , what you can do is to show them the benefits and hope they will listen to what you aim for . as happiness is a state of mind therefore the main and real source of happiness lies in mind , no relation for external circumstances . here I would like to shed some light for the way to happiness . before going to mention some tips for getting happy , I would like to clarify fact misunderstanding about happiness . some people think that money is the main source of happiness . I am of the point that money can help of making happy , but it can not stand by itself . so the rich people can buy the best medicine ,but not health , they can buy the most expensive books and educational devices , can pay high costs for learning , but they can not buy cleverness .how many rich people wish pace of mind ,some want health and the other wish to eat ,drink and walk well. as I mentioned above happiness is a state of mind ,so If our mind is pure and peaceful we shall be happy, regardless of our external conditions, but if it is impure and unpeaceful we shall never find happiness, no matter how much we try to change our external circumstances. Islam has revealed this facts hundreds years ago , that is why Islamic religion is the religion of mediation . Islam called for tolerance , brotherliness ,forgiveness , love and social conformity .these traits of pace mind .now , let me go through some tips to reach the happiness goal .
The first way to reach the real state of happiness is to conduct the religious basics and duties heart and soul .this way is the nearest one to the world of happiness . we take , for example , the prayer .we have prayed five times a day , this pray that conducted in different movements ( kneeling , prostration and standing ) have its positive effects on improving our systems ,respiratory ,nervous ,digestive and muscular systems )as advance researches and studies reveal . by doing these basics that do not take long time , you will reach to best standard of happiness . for musilms , go through holy Quarn to explore more .
The second way of getting happy is to satisfy of yourself and your case . do not compare others butter than yourself. Your case is a mixed of complex abilities and limits . exaggerated in such thinking ,will lead to destroyed the pace of mind .you do not get nothing except the more bad obsessions .this does not –necessary - mean that you do not care about improving your case and ignore your mistakes . but think in reasonable way and within your abilities . remember that a trip of thousand miles begin with one step ahead . so think only of the best , work only of the best and except only the best .
The third way of getting happy is the righteous , virtuous ,honest and dutiful wife .as marriage is one of the most important course of life and the honest wife is the chattel and goods for life journey , so you should be clever to chose the ideal wife .
The forth path to get happy is behaving according to basic morals that acquire social respect . being happy and moral are matters that complete each other . the non ethic people do not feel happy at all . exploit the friendship to improve your knowledge on how to deal with people in different natures . help the man/ woman who need help , be care of hurt others feelings by criticism ,do not concentrate on tragedy around the world , be open minded on the new ideas ,always draw a light smile and it give everyone you meet , be a good listener and remember that the sociality is the first. Remember that you could not conduct such morals and behaviors unless you have the most standard of optimism and flexibility .
The fifth way of getting happy is to be optimistic personality .optimistic personality is one who always looks at sunny sides of everything , forget the mistakes of the past to press on the great a achievement of the future and someone who wear a cheerful countenance at all his times . optimistic person is the one who Adjust himself for the natural contradictories too long for the worry , too noble for the anger , too strong for the fear and too happy to permit the presence for trouble . is there someone appreciate this facts .
The sixth way of getting happy is building a healthy body . building a good physical and healthy body comes as a result of your choice of things you eat and drink . so do not eat or drink something unnatural that may change your natural state . try not chew qat , do not drink a lot of coffee , in other words , do not eat or drink things that destroy your pace of mind and lead you think over and over . try to change your routine of meals . pray to god for his mercy on you , visit one of the hospitals to discover this mercy .
The seventh traits that brings happiness is work . whatever your life is good or bad ,the person should depend only on his work . the advanced research reveal that free time is the main reason behind anxiety disorder . so working brings happiness for person . some people say we do not have a job , it is not necessary to have a job , search for any kind of voluntary work to help people and acquire GOD,s human please .
Before we end talking about the source of happiness , I want to refer to something important for getting happy .changing – atmosphere – or case. Changing may mean change of life style , clothes or place . some go to gardens while other go to different places . this depend on your preferred idea . read Islamic directions to decrease the anger , changing moving and ablution . believe me , one of my friend change his bad mod by cutting hair to the shortest level. So changing is one of the means of getting happy .
Lastly , these factors mentioned above are not all ways to the kingdom of happiness , there are more and more paths . what you need to do is to read these points and give it your priority .
i appreciate anyone write more and more points to enrich this topic . because i write acoording to my religous .
Shamsan Dabwan Saeed
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February 14, 2010, 06:02:25 AM