A confusing Love problem

[Patrickmeister]

I have a love problem... To be frank, I am asian, overweight, but, cool with everyone, in school, and I am of average 176 cm height (5'10)...

There is a girl that is pretty hot, but, I am not sure if she likes me. this is how it goes. I didn't have much of a sexual/romantic desire for her, before, more of a friend type of view, but, I was recently in a play, and in it, she was there too, she for some reason came and talked to me a bit, and started to look at me from time to time, and when I look back she stares right away. So, when a girl might possibly like you, a pretty 'hot' friend turns into a possible girlfriend. I AM still in high school, and I live in spain, so I don't have a car yet or anything, I am just a kid. See, It is kind of awkward now, since I didn't do anything, because I was afraid of she not actually liking me. See, I'm cool with my buddies, but, not that great with the ladies. I don't know, but, please help me with my problem...

What I want is to easily know if she is into me, and what to do if she does. I just want to have a girlfriend, as gay as it sounds. If you need any possible details, just ask away! I'll be glad to answer...

[pert -5]

Ask her to go to a movie or something with you on a Friday night.  Don't make it a big deal or anything, but try to be clear (while not being rude) that you want it to be just the two of you.  If she says no then you know, back off a bit and reassess the situation.  If she says yes, then go on the date.  It's not so much what you do, it's what you do in response to what she does.

[Patrickmeister]

hmm thanks for the tip... Just a ques, what is a good way to ask a girl out? i don't really talk to her like every day, just like once every 2 days or sth... Also, whts a good place?

[pert -5]

How close are you two?  I mean, I can suggest stuff like bringing up a movie that you think she might like that is coming out this (or whatever) weekend, and then playing off her response.  If it's a movie that you KNOW she'll like, so much the better, but if you're not 100% a keen ear can be a helpful friend.  Springtime's here and that means fairs and carnivals which are other good choices, though I don't know how the weather fares where you are.

Another thing to keep in mind is that if there is no rush then encourage her to join you and your friends in activities together outside of school.  That way you can be around her more often and get to know her better.  You can take it slow that way and gauge the situation.   But if someone else has the hots for her then you gotta make haste and ask her straight up if she would like to go to a movie or whatever with you.

I dunno, just some suggestions to offer, others may have others.  Besides that, I'd advise that you start getting into a habit of spelling out your words as fully and correctly as possible whenever you can, it will pay off in the long run.

Peace.

[Patrickmeister]

ok, sorry... Thanks a lot for the advise

[pert -5]

I know, I sound like some dickhead teacher, but I'm really not. 

[Patrickmeister]

naa its ok im sometimes a grammar nazi too, (when im trollin )

[pert -5]

The Stooges - Trollin'
-----------------------------
Huh! Woo!
Good God!

Baby, baby take a look at me
I see your long legs riding your Lee's
I see your hair has energy
My dick is turnin' into a tree

I got the top down on my cadillac
My Stooges T-Shirt is ridin' my back
Rock critics wouldn't like this at all
I guess my faith is ridin' my balls

You can't tell me this is not a suave thing to do
You can't tell me 'cause I know you'd do it too

I'm trollin'
We're trollin'
Baby I'm trollin'
Baby we're trollin'

Hey baby, consider me
I am as lonely as I can be
I've bread given and I've read sod
I've played with rockers and I've played with mods

My mind is blown and nothin' is true
The ones who don't know always say they do
There's a reason when you gotta look
It's the action and never the book

You can't tell me this is not a suave thing to do
You can't tell me 'cause I know you'd do it too

I'm trollin'
I'm trollin'
We're trollin'
We're trollin'
Baby we're trollin'
Lookin' for somethin'
I'm trollin' baby
We're trollin' baby
We're trollin'
Trollin'
Trollin'
Trollin'
Trollin'
Trollin'

[Patrickmeister]

look at a song I wrote

New lyrics to my new song:
TROLLIN'
---------------------------- Sing along to Chamillionaire's Ridin'
They see me trollin',
they hatin,
patrollin',
they tryin to starve the troll OMG,
Tryin to catch me trollin somewhere X4
My flame wars so big
They burnin'
they tryin to starve the troll OMG,
Tryin to catch me trollin somewhere X4

Grammar nazis see me troll
I use ALL CAPS to be seen
When i start flame wars they flame me
But then I just say ur a nub
Go to some noobs they like wut up
With a name like bob123
I say noob and he say wut?
Start a flame war just for fun ha
Brah you dont know anything about me
So just eat ur fucking cookie
Then just go away and fuck a hole bitch
Forum rules ha they dum shit
Ignite the flames and start a war
If ur troll the come with me
and lets start a fucking flame war

[Patrickmeister]

ehh thanks for your contribution, but, i already have this manual, and, it is for non-schoolboys... It doesnt work in school...

[SWM]

oh, eh, that was quick.

i realised after i posted that it was not what you were asking for so i removed my post.

[Patrickmeister]

ehh its ok all contributions are welcome

[SWM]

how are you in reading body language and picking up clues from nonverbal communication?

do you understand anything at all about body language/ nonverbal communication.

[Patrickmeister]

yep mostly, unless there is something quite obscure

[grasshopper]

May I suggest,  Patrick, that you ask this girl out for a lunch date, rather than a movie.   A low-budget lunch at a fast food joint is an easy going, no-pressure situation during the day, and the girl will feel much more relaxed than she would on any date in the evening, knowing that she can walk away with no hard feelings if the conversation doesn't flow right, and also being aware that you won't be expecting to progress into a grope session after that daytime meeting.

The reason I would advise against a movie date as your very first meeting is that there would be limited time to chat when you are both glued to the screen, meaning less time to know each other. 

[Patrickmeister]

hmm great suggestion, thanks...

[pert -5]

May I suggest,  Patrick, that you ask this girl out for a lunch date, rather than a movie.   A low-budget lunch at a fast food joint is an easy going, no-pressure situation during the day, and the girl will feel much more relaxed than she would on any date in the evening, knowing that she can walk away with no hard feelings if the conversation doesn't flow right, and also being aware that you won't be expecting to progress into a grope session after that daytime meeting.

The reason I would advise against a movie date as your very first meeting is that there would be limited time to chat when you are both glued to the screen, meaning less time to know each other. 

Yep.

Pat, the most successful guys with women have the ability to turn off their own needs in the beginning stages of a relationship with a girl.  Make her feel special.  I don't know how to tell you how to do this as every situation is different, but that is the basic key.  Like grasshper said, ask her to if she wants to have lunch at McDonald's or some such place.  It's all good, so to speak. 

[drywaterdrywater]

yea take your fat ass to the gym, it will help build self confidence, get leaner and healthier. its not going to change overnight but in time youll see the truth. same with the girl go on a simple friendly date get her # call her and if it goes somewhere it goes somewhere. most importantly if you dont try you will never see the truth. have fun