Attraction vs personality

[Andylol]

Physical attraction vs personality... most grls say they dnt have a type, they say its morely based on personality that they're moraly attracted to... lately observing my gal friends an past experience It makes no sense that they contradict themselves... am I the only one who sees this? Or am I just wrong? What do grls ultimately seek, personality or physical attraction?

[voodoo scientist]

Both genders consider both physical attractiveness, behavior and perceived personality characteristics in mate selection, but they look for different traits (though certain traits appear to be universally 'attractive,' such as symmetrical facial features).

[S. Earl Martin]

Trying to figure out what a woman wants? Good luck with that. I have had a number of releationships and am always amazed at how they turn out. I have treated women like queens and bought them whatever they asked for. I have had marathon sex. Focusing on satisfying them. I have played all the games being a good guy or a tough guy. Still they always want more. Several times they cheated on me with some jerk that treated them like crap. They took my money and spent it on this dumbass who didn't do anything for them but insult them and treat them like dirt.

I was married for 21 years my wife and I loved each other as much as is humanly possible, but still I had a hard time pleasing her. If I did this she wanted that. If I did what she asked she was still not satisfied. Not all the time. There were times we got along great. It is just impossible to know what women want. To be fair they probably think the same about men.

Anyway I found that some things worked to get and hold a womens attention.
One is humor. You have to know the woman to judge what she will think is funny. See what her intersets are and go with that. All humor takes an element of suprise or miss direction.
Another is well timed lines from movies or TV shows. Especially shows women like to watch.
Also showing an interset in what she is interested in. Even if you don't want to it can be worth it.
Another is money. I have found very few women who won't at least give you the time of day if you are dressed sharp and have cash. Take out a few hundred dollar bills and people notice.

In the big picture different people want different things. If you are dealing with a girl from a modest background. She may just want a man with a steady job. If she is educated she may want a man to father her children. Maybe a house husband. If she is religious she may be looking along that line. If she is attractive she may be looking along those lines. The best way I have found is to be their friend. Once you get to know them you can judge what they want better. There is an old saying "the man chases her until she catches him"

I have found that being married in this world is a very difficult process. My wife was very pretty, intellegent and funny. Several times other men tried to talk her into leaving me for them. The reverse was also true. I had women try and get me to leave my wife for them or at least fool around. The fact that my wife couldn't have children only complicated this. Releationships are very difficult. Mergeing two lives into one and being happy with the outcome? I have had alot of women shake their tail feathers at me since my wife died. I am glad that I am too old to have to deal with that anymore. Getting married again? LOL!

[Sparrowhawk1161]

I believe both sexs look at physical attractiveness and personality at the same time.  It's hard to believe that both sexes look at just physical attributes.

If that was so...consider this?  You see a dummy in a store window.  Look at the dummy!  It's plastic.  It has all the right attributes of the sex you want..it has nice clothes, hair and makup.  Is it a store dummy....YES!

Why do you know that?  It's not just because it doesn't move?  It has nothing to create attractiveness...unless you want to buy the clothes?

People see more than Physical.  They see every nuance...from the way they move, walk and how they carry the eyes...  If all we saw was physical...we'd be marrying store dummies!

We see everthing in the oppposite sex from the moment we lay eyes on them.  We get a glimpse of personality right from the start.  Since I'm a guy?

THE GIRL IS MOVING!  How do you know it's a girl..?  She moves.

There was a psych study done long ago...I don't remember who or where, but when I took the class, it showed what people look at with their eyes when they recognise a person.  What sex are they?  I think the first was hair.  Long hair...most likely a girl.  The way they walk...another dead give away... then the other stuff.  If the person has no personality at all they'd be a dummy.

What does a woman want...personality.. what does a guy want...guess what...personality...It's engrained in our psyche.

Now if you are talking about what an individual sex finds more important...it gets complicated.

Now, your talking about not only psychology issues, but socialogical issues on top of it.

Yikes!!!

[Psyche]

People often say it is based on personality as they don't want to seem shallow. I mean, for some it is mostly personality perhaps, but for many they will say that but really it isn't quite true.

It is all very complicated, choosing mates and who we are attracted to. Girls will often be attracted to good looking men not just because they are attractive, but because they make them look better. we are social animals, and many girls would feel bad if they had a man that didn't look up to "par" or whatever you want to call it. People often are not just thinking about true compatibility when they are choosing a mate. I mean, oftentimes they are focusing on their feelings, and their feelings may draw them to a guy that they won't even emotionally get along with, but whom will make them look good and feel good about themselves. People don't always know the roots of their desires. So well someone may be drawn to a guy, feel all interested in them, but not know really why. So then they get together and sometimes they more see how they interact with the guy, maybe they feel something missing, etc.

I would say with many girls, not all, but many, physical attraction, financial stability, and all these other things play in heavily into initially attracting them to someone. Then I think personally will play a big part in if it ends up working out or not. Though some will stay with someone they don't really love just for the stability, many times relationships where the people don't appreciate each other's personalities just fall apart.

[gone]

Most women will find a provider who can buy them stuff and take care of them, it's well known wealth makes a man more attractive. (personally they make me vomit).

Women say about men and I quote:
 "He's got his own company"
"He's a football player"
"He's got a massive apartment on the docks"
"He's got a BMW"
"He buys me things"

Rarely will you hear
"He makes me laugh"
"He's really considerate"
"He works to help people"
"He's a lot of fun"

We live in a century where people are encouraged to climb the social ladder so they will choose partners that elevate their social status (which is currently material posessions).

There are other factors though like a tall guy will often go for a short woman and vice-versa as they obviously/unconsciously don't want to breed giants. And the more opposite they are the better the rate of successful breading in terms of genes. (why so many deformaties are present in Islam because they inbreed - marrying cousins)..

I go with my feelings, and if it feels right it just about sums it up, regardless of what they have or look like.

[MJAlex]

Everyone is different on how they weigh personality to physical attraction. My girlfriend does say that I'm attractive, but she also says that I caught her with my honesty. Different girls are attracted to different things, and the same goes for men. If someone put a picture of a "hot" girl in front of me, I don't think they are attractive at all. While it's hard to ignore the way someone looks, for me, an emotional attraction is better than the physical, and makes me more attracted to their appearance. So, everyone is different, and each person has something else they prefer, so it's hard to compare one person under a stereotype for dating aspects. It's very unlikely that one person would prefer and be attracted to the same as another person would.

[tommy1412]

Well, what makes you think that you love a person. Boys and Girls are just the same, they use brain. As long as you can play with the chemical that created in the brain, then you can take over their heart. As long as ur appearance is normal and u dun have a crazy personality, you can still get the person you like. Is about the method you use