He stands too close

[trinvit]

Hi I am new with a question hopefully someone will be able to give me some insight on. My boss is older than me by about 20 years, married. It is just the two of us in he office. He has started standing so close to me that it is causing me some turmoil. He'll come up to my desk and stand less than half an inch to explain things he wants done. Sometimes he'll stand that way and bend over to look at my computer so that his face is just as close.

Recently he was on the phone with a client and put them on hold to get information from a file that I was working on. I thought he'd simply take the file back to his office but he put the client on my speaker phone, and stood so close that this shirt kept touching my arm and cheek for the duration of their conversation. I just kind of sat there feeling all kinds of weird (I had no where to go as my chair was as far to the right as it could go (wall) with a trash can and wall behind me). Here is my problem - when he was next to me like that I was overcome with some sort of lust/attraction. It was so strange it made me feel kind of drowsy. I am around him all of the time and don't feel anything, but when he stands close to me like that I feel sexually attracted to him. Does standing close to someone trick them into feeling attracted to you? As for his reasons I read somewhere that bosses stand close as a way of showing their dominance, so I assume he's showing me he's the boss.

[Joe_lacek]

Now, are you a male of female?

Suggestion-- Maybe it would help if you both established a relationship on more friendly terms. I've also had this type of feeling with certain individuals, female luckily. It's an awkward feeling, and it seemed like there was a single pulse, very awkward at that...

What helps is lightening up your bond, crack some jokes, be a little more goofy. If things go astray, tell him your situation. Make up a boyfriend/girlfriend.

Please don't do any of the suggestions I listed before you post some more details about your situation, I would hate to lead you in the wrong direction considering this seems to be a very personal issue.

Also, hopefully some other members could implement some suggestions too.

[trinvit]

I am a female. We do joke around at times. We are on friendly terms. We've been working together for a few years. It's just lately he's been acting strange. Getting close, almost like he's putting me in situations to see how I react. He'll flirt with me and then immediately go to his office and call his wife or one of his kids. It's so weird. I think he's just screwing around with my head for fun.

[Joe_lacek]

Do you believe he finds you sexually attractive? Maybe he's fighting one of his own battles, he may have some issues of his own. I've also known people who are pretty outrageous, they're are some strange people in this world and saying he may be doing this "just for fun" is an extremely respectable idea, that may not be the case.

What is the most recent example that has occurred? Anything since your initial post?

[Sniper15]

Sounds like he wants to bang