Help with an uncertain relationship

[tianshiz]

   It's been nearly a month since I've been a freshman in college. During the first few days I met this great girl and we immediately became best friends. We hang out everyday whenever possible and often do stuff alone(eating, walks at night, etc...). We're so close that holding hands, putting my arms around her or touching her anywhere(except the indecent places) is pretty normal. However close we are though, the girl had a boyfriend before coming to college. They dated for 4 years already and only kind of informally broke up after the girl went for college. Even now, the ex still calls her often.
The ex here is 3 years older and had just graduated from college. My friend wants him to come to graduate school at the university I'm at, probably so they could continue the relationship. Still I heard from her that it's probably unlikely for her ex to come but she would still try.

What should I do at this point? We're getting closer than ever, but I don't want to end up in a disappointment. Why would she get so close to me and go on what are basically dates? Should I just stop pursuing this relationship further?

Thanks for the help

[Ajna]

Communication is everything in a relationship. If you are as close as you say, than you should have a certain level of comfort in blunt honest truths with each other. When the soul is searching for love, it has a tendency to make a square block fit into a circle hole. In other words, you make certain augments and allowances to a persons personality to make them see more like "the one" in your mind because your searching for it.

I highly recommend you talk to her, and be just as open about your feelings as you were on this forum to her. If you can express that you are concerned, and that you care for her deeply, than you put all your cards out on the table. If her reaction is positive, than your judgment of choosing her as a mate was well placed, if her reaction is negative than her heart is clearly not in the same place as yours. If your desire for the relationship to work is preventing you from this kind of honesty, than you are most likely getting the square in a circle hole syndrome. Just something to consider.