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ichkoguy

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How to manage your girl friend?
« on: July 28, 2008, 04:56:04 PM »
I really find very difficult to manage time for my girl friend. I knew that she is important for me. But when i start doing my works, i really forget the world and at the day end, i could see her calls in the missed call register. After that i go and apologise to her. I know am doing wrong but really could not prevent. Kindly suggest me some ways on how to manage work and my sweet heart.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #1 on: July 31, 2008, 10:44:59 PM »
Can you elaborate? What work do you do? How long are your working days? How often do you see your girlfriend?

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2008, 09:26:09 PM »
If I understand you correctly, you call your girlfriend in the evening after you're finished working.  How is that neglecting her?  It seems to me that she should not be calling you while you're at work anyway unless it's something very important.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #3 on: March 06, 2009, 08:47:42 AM »
 You can't manage someone else's behavior. Nor can you change it for them. If she says rude or hurtful comments to you, be firm. Tell her her statement was hurtful. Walk away from her.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #4 on: March 16, 2009, 05:31:43 PM »
You need to grow a pair of balls and man up and dump the high maitenance bitch

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #5 on: May 06, 2009, 12:44:45 AM »
Hey people, wait a minute. The original poster said nothing about the girl being high maintenance, rude, or causing any problems. She calls during the day, he misses her calls because of work, and later on feels bad about it. So wait, don't jump on the girl yet.

I would say we could use more specifics, too. What type of work do you do? Is it appropriate for her to call you at work? Would you say she does that too much? Have you explained that you cannot return calls when at work and why?

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #6 on: May 07, 2009, 02:51:02 AM »
I don't think this would be a problem if your girlfriend understands your situation and puts herself in your shoes. If she doesn't like that behavior try to explain to her patiently and make her to empathize with you rather than getting her angry.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #7 on: May 07, 2009, 04:23:10 PM »
I really find very difficult to manage time for my girl friend. I knew that she is important for me. But when i start doing my works, i really forget the world and at the day end, i could see her calls in the missed call register. After that i go and apologise to her. I know am doing wrong but really could not prevent. Kindly suggest me some ways on how to manage work and my sweet heart.

Why do not you simply talk to her and explain your predicament? Only then, she will know how she is affecting your work. I mean, if you call her after work, then, it should not a problem

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #8 on: May 07, 2009, 05:13:52 PM »
I can relate to this my husband does this a lot he has a huge problem managing his time us his family and with his extra work outside of work . So that is my question for you is this extra work outside of work that pays or is it really work?

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #9 on: May 09, 2009, 06:58:35 PM »
#1-You can't manage someone else's behavior. Nor can you change it for them.
#2-If she says rude or hurtful comments to you, be firm. Tell her her statement was hurtful. Walk away from her.

I agree with statement #2, but #1 contradicts it. Telling her and walking away are ways to manage her behaviour. As an example, in Psychology you learn to manage behavior through conditioning, so it is possible and more common than we think.

     To my point: First figure out what you expect from a relationship with a woman. What did you want in the first place, why? The kind of person you would like, things in common, differences, even looks and behaviour. Figure your wants first. Now since you do have a girlfiriend she probably fits some or most of your "qualifications".
     Ask her what she expects from you, as a man, as a friend. Ask her if she's satisfied with the time you spend together, the quality of this time, the attention you give her, your behavior towards her. Clearly she's left wanting something, and tells you through complaints. So ask her to lay down her terms, but don't be ready to give in just to keep her. Have some respect for your desires and wants, and if she's worth it she will appreciate it. This is also a way of testing her interest in you.
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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #10 on: May 15, 2009, 07:44:58 AM »
I think if you can't change your lifestyle anymore since you're too busy with your work. You can just tell her about it, be honest and straightforward. She keeps on calling you because she obviously misses you. You two should really have to talk to patch things up.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #11 on: May 18, 2009, 01:18:52 AM »
Most of guys has this kind of prob with her GF or wive :(

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #12 on: May 18, 2009, 02:34:34 AM »
Most of the issues I see are (1) values (2) communication. If your values overlap sufficiently, then it's simply a matter of communication. I've worked incredibly hard on communication, yet there's always more work to do. Make sure you are spending time every night genuinely communicating. Go for a drive or a walk alone together and turn off your cell phone.

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Re: How to manage your girl friend?
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2009, 11:01:10 AM »
Most of guys has this kind of prob with her GF or wive :(

I disagree!  I've never had this problem with my boyfriend and to say that most people have this problem is a generalisation which you can't possibly make...you don't know every couple on the planet!

 

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