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Sarah_123

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Hello all,

I am with the man of my dreams, but I am trying to break up the relationship because I don't have faith that it will ever work out.

At the moment we are living in different countries due to his work. It is supposed to be a temporary position but it has already been going on for longer than expected, and we're not sure when we'll be together again. I trust him 100% and we have contact most days, either by telephone, online chatting, or by E-mail. Nothing is too much trouble for him, and he is always there for me when I need him. I know he is the perfect man for me, but I am worried that ultimately we won't end up together.

I deliberately do things that I know he doesn't like, I make excuses not to spend time with him, and I generally treat him like he is not important to me. I believe the reason for this is that I am punishing him for taking a job that keeps us apart. He reassures me often, and then I am fine for a few days, but the negative thoughts soon return.

He broke up with me in the spring as a result of these things and we did not talk for a month, but I just couldn't let him go, so I wrote to him and now we are back together. But I still find myself punishing him by acting coldly all the time. I have constant fear and stress because I think I won't end up with the man of my dreams. So I think, subconciously, I am trying to find a way out of this situation. I cannot live without him, he is the sweetest guy I have ever known.

I didn't realise until now that I am actually punishing him because of my own fears. The problem is that maybe even if he came home tomorrow, I would find some other reason to imagine that it won't work out.

Is there any solution for this type of problem?


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Re: I am trying to destroy my perfect relationship - please help
« Reply #1 on: July 13, 2011, 08:43:59 AM »
listen o me ........I belive that love is the most Improtant thing that enable us to make some one happy.....so u love him or not ...if yes, then stop pushing  the man away and give him all the love u have towards him and this's enough to make him the happiest on the earth if u want.........if no, thn leave him and stop punching him and your self.
I hope it's clear enough.

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Re: I am trying to destroy my perfect relationship - please help
« Reply #2 on: July 13, 2011, 11:22:56 PM »
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Is there any solution for this type of problem?

@Sarah are you able to state concisely what your problem is. one sentence or two at most.
« Last Edit: July 13, 2011, 11:28:16 PM by SWM »
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