I need advises and refer me to some good reading and to articles

[baynswovey]

sorry in advance about my poor english.
i'm divorced man, we have Supervised visitation about my daughter (12 years old) who doesn't live with me. she with her mom.
she sees me in occasional meetings and every so often because the her *watcher*.


How does a low frequency relationship, consisting of Supervised visitation, create her a longing to feel deep emotional with me, create with my daughter trusting and secure attachment bond with me and how to make her the ability to trust and to feel secure with me ?
How possible is it to build in my daughter feeling of security with me ?
how to ask her open questions to lead her to feel comfortable with me, and how can i Express my affection to her and the fact she is my special for me and Mean the World to Me, and all that despite the fact that she sees me just occasional meetings and every so often ?
I would greatly appreciate your reference and/or direction, to sources that would help answer my question or lead me to reading materials regarding the my question.

[voodoo scientist]

It is really not necessary to read any psychological literature at all. Usually, the problem is that people can't crystallize their feelings in the way you can, but there's absolutely no reason you shouldn't just come out and say "You're very special and mean the world to me" once you're capable of thinking the thought. Be honest, be direct, and allow yourself to be vulnerable with her. Strong, healthy feelings of security and trust are almost always nurtured through mutual vulnerability - it's the mutual knowledge that we have the power to hurt one another, yet instead opt to help and support, that fosters the bond you're looking for.