I need help with an over abundance of sexual desire

[mylittlepooka]

I have an unusually high sex drive.  My friends call me a bunny. I'm ok with this. But my boyfriend has a much lower sex drive. I love him with all my heart and he's the best thing that's ever happened to me, but this causes us problems. I want and I ask for it. Sometimes I get it, most times I don't. I know I get demanding, but it drives me crazy.

I also go into heat. I get so tense that I shake. My blood feels like lava in my veins. There's pressure on my chest. And I crave. This goes until there is nothing else and then after a day or two it passes. It feels like Christmas morning, but instead of getting to open presents I only get to stare at them. I'll do this two or more times over my monthly cycle. Masturbation doesn't work, I don't know why. I love it and I hate it.

I love it when I can get the sexual attention I need during this time. I feels good to go through the process of craving, anticipation as things get started and the release at the end. Always followed by relaxation, lots of cuddles and love. The best part.

I hate it when I can't get what I'm craving. Because then I just burn and shake. I get very upset when I'm in this state and he isn't willing. No presents for me. I can look, but I can't touch.

I feel bad for expecting him to perform on demand, but at the same time I'd like sex more than once a week or less. Over time I just become this tense, crying mess and I don't like being this way. And I don't know what to do about it. I can't make him change, and wouldn't force it if I could. So what I can do? How can I make less painful and stressful on me? Is there something I can do to encourage sexual attention without demanding with my words and actions? Should I even?

For those who have read this far, Thank you. For those who didn't, I don't blame you. Thank you again.

Chelsea

[grasshopper]

Hi Chelsea,   First off I don't buy into the puritanical notion that a healthy desire for sex needs to be called an addiction.  There is nothing more wholesome, worthwhile and fulfilling than a good roll in the hay, and unlike REAL addictions, there are no side effects that result from a hectic schedule of wanton lust, provided of course that the necessary precautions are taken.   I cannot for the life of me understand why Tiger Woods felt a need to get therapy to "cure" his love for sex.  Maybe that announcement was intended to please the scolding finger waggers, many of whom probably cheat on their wives as well.

If your man does not get aroused as frequently as you do, and you don't wish to see anyone else to quench that fire, then get yourself a motorized dildo, with which you can induce as many orgasms as you please, whenever the mood takes you.  Your boyfriend will definitely enjoy seeing you get off, even if he is not always in the mood to take over from the machine, and he will also be glad to be free of the pressure to perform when he sees that you have a safe and effective Plan B that doesn't invlove you seeing another man.

That will be twenty bucks for my professional advice, and I only accept cash.

[Patrickmeister]

dude all addiction is caused by dependence on one thing, and that only happens if you don't have much going on in your life. So, just do other hobbies to divert your attention to that hobby and not so much sex all the time. I say about sex once a day is average, whilst over 10 per week may be a little too much, unless you work in the 'sex'/porno business.

Other than that, I would get myself neutered, if all fails... or make a BME pain olympics vid... (<--- just kidding, dont actually do this... >_<)

[Patrickmeister]

also, no offense, but, you MIGHT be a nympho... just saying... get yourself tested or something if the desire for sex overclouds your decisions and changes your behavior.

[grasshopper]

Hmm I categorize and label others, and thus I feel superior.

[Patrickmeister]

lol ofc