Longing for love affair

[sure]

I never experienced much love from the heart from my family.

My father behaves as a short love affair towards me (he abused me in early childhood)
My mother dislikes and rejects me (as girls were rejected in former times)
In my heart I always remained lonesome (as a true development aid volunteer).

Now I've picked this 'man of my dreams'! A married, former teacher of mine, powerful, career-oriented, and he considers me as a simple comrade or workmate of his. 
I  simply can't forget him since 10 years now. I am projecting my parent's behaviour on him: Fast, lonely f affairs and heart-rejection.

HOW CAN I GO ON WITH IT? HOW CAN I EVER BE HAPPY IN A FULLFILLED LOVE AFFAIR FOR LIFE?

sure

[sure]

FATHER SUCKS THE DAUGHTER'S FRIENDS, WHILE MUM ONLY LOVES FAMOUS TELLY STARS. DAUGHTER DEVELOPED LOVE DELLUSION BY PORNMAILS IN HER CHILDRENSROOM. SICKENSS UNDERSTOOD. WHAT TO DO WITH PORN (CHILD) ABUSE ?

[sure]

what to do with Porn (Child) Abuse ? Sex Therapy  You also get caught by law for this, isn't it  - although you are abused (as Pornmailopener) ?

[sure]

A schoolfirend of mine is crazy with me. her only sense in life is .... talking about sure, phoning about sure, writing about sure for the local government and privately, getting to know sures friends and starting affairs with sures lovers. She's paranoid. The parents of this following-me-in-thought-and-actions-former-friend-of-mine have been employed (and fired) in the same hospital I have been with - the relationsship was private - public.

[ErikAndersen]

Love is such a strong emotion. It truly excites the brain.

[ErikAndersen]

I am new to this site, would any forum regulars like to tell me what the rules are re: giving professional advice?

[Sigma Freud]

The heart wants what the heart wants.

[pert -5]

I am new to this site, would any forum regulars like to tell me what the rules are re: giving professional advice?

As long as you don't give under false pretense, you are alright.  If you are giving academically accurate information, it is best to provide links or describe, very well, your point and/or suppositions.

[gone]

Why do you long for a love affair?
Why do you think this will make you happy?

The harsh realities are love affairs are fine in the imagination, in reality they are very different.

Why waste your energies, emotions on someone married? The energy and emotions you are devoting are wasted, personally I would recommend learning to love yourself, focus all that affection on yourself as you yourself are more worthy of the attention. You really don't need a man to be happy, often they bring misery. It is not like the movies or in imagination.
Don't waste you life longing when you could be living.

[sure]

A World Bank Senior Consultant told me it wouldn't be nessessary to look up the rules of internet forums but once. iIt's always the same.

In general I think it shouldn't be allowed to earn money with mental health. But sometimes problems become so big, that you can't solve them alone.

I'm very proud that finally someone answered! How do you do ? There must me some rules, isn't it ?

I made it to rationalize my feelings and carry the heart in the head. I finally got rid of my parents by police force. And the same holds true for corruptive doctors.

Re: The heart wants, what the heart wants: Sometimes you're all corrupted: Friends quarrel and tell they're opinion around till the majority prejustices,,

parents are dull, doctors want to earn, and politicians suck. Finally every-day-life wants its share - and you're pretty sure that you can make it on your own.

Because problems finally aren't bigger anymore than yourself. I have you ! Please don't go away. I need you!

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and professors want science.

[sure]

Dear Psycho-mother: Thank you for answering! Most genious! Are you alright ?

I suffered under a love dellusion, and the whole hospital nearly closed down, cause in my country they're all in love, but there are parents, who forbit.

They want their children on their own and there's abuse.

 You know the german novel "Effi Briest" ? It's 200 years old and still symbolizes how love it handled in germany. The russians have "anna karenina", the french " Madame. Bovary" and the British their Victorian Age.

Unhappy love is over very fast, but love delusion takes time: I'm in love, he's in love, but society is against. And they'r others: For him my friends and family, for me my doctors, who understood the UN-corruption: YOU ARE IN LOVE! THEY FIGHT WITH IT! MOTIVATE WITH IT! THEY PAY WITH IT! etc.

Others use drugs to work or hate and violence. How do you motivate ?

[gone]

Thanks sure. Please excuse my deviating below. I hope you're ok and wish you well.

I'm not being funny but I smell a rat here.
This is how perception works, what are the chances of 2 different people joining this site.
Both of which join on the same day.
Both of which use a photo.
Both photo's of which look like their from the same source.
Both members list their sex.
Both members comment on the same posts.
Both members have a first and second name.
The chances of that happening are very remote.
Therefore I percieve that Erick Anderson and Sigma Freud are one of the same member.
So why 2 profiles?

[ErikAndersen]

Thanks sure. Please excuse my deviating below. I hope you're ok and wish you well.

I'm not being funny but I smell a rat here.
This is how perception works, what are the chances of 2 different people joining this site.
Both of which join on the same day.
Both of which use a photo.
Both photo's of which look like their from the same source.
Both members list their sex.
Both members comment on the same posts.
Both members have a first and second name.
The chances of that happening are very remote.
Therefore I percieve that Erick Anderson and Sigma Freud are one of the same member.
So why 2 profiles?

I'm not going to feed this troll. If that's your delusion, you'll be able to prove it. Until then, I suggest you step back and look at things more objectively.

[Sigma Freud]

psycho-mother, was it necessary for you to post this in two threads? I see that you and pert-5 comment in a lot of the same places. Does that make you one in the same person?

[gone]

sigma/erik - yes it was necessary to post in 2 threads.
erik/sigma - there are very few neuroscience pages on fb. none of which have a link to this site yesterday or in previous times. On search of keywords there is no facebook/psychology/neuroscience result - this may appear in listings in a day or two so this isn't a given.

Was just an observation, mighty strange that's all. I don't care if a person has 1 or 100 profiles, some are more easily fooled than others. And your profiles/posts are suspicious of the same person.
(appologies for going off topic)

[ErikAndersen]

sigma/erik - yes it was necessary to post in 2 threads.
erik/sigma - there are very few neuroscience pages on fb. none of which have a link to this site yesterday or in previous times. On search of keywords there is no facebook/psychology/neuroscience result - this may appear in listings in a day or two so this isn't a given.

Was just an observation, mighty strange that's all. I don't care if a person has 1 or 100 profiles, some are more easily fooled than others. And your profiles/posts are suspicious of the same person.
(appologies for going off topic)

So we can conclude, based on psycho-mother's logic, that psycho-mother and pert-5 are the same person.

Hi psycho-mother/pert-5
or is pert-5 your main and psycho-mother your sock?

[SWM]

I am new to this site, would any forum regulars like to tell me what the rules are re: giving professional advice?

Hi,
I dont have many rules. these are the ones I can think of right now.

No spamming or marketing on the boards.

anything you talk about should not be deliberately offensive or harmful.

as for giving advice i will police that on a person by person basis.

[gone]

Erik/Sigma - unlike you
and to extend upon the above
I can't spell, pert can
Our pictures are different sizes, yours are exactly the same
I have a mail icon no sex icon
pert has sex icon no mail icon
we joined here on different days
we have different log-in habbits - you're so far are the same.
sure is a BIG coincidence
etc etc etc.. myself & pert could well be one of the same but if so, few would know, you've made little effort in your deception.
your profiles, your writing styles too are the same. I could be wrong, but I doubt it. only the moderator will know for sure, re-ip address, location etc..

again sorry to sure for deviating.

[SWM]

Was just an observation, mighty strange that's all. I don't care if a person has 1 or 100 profiles, some are more easily fooled than others. And your profiles/posts are suspicious of the same person.
(appologies for going off topic)

the similarities are even deeper than the outward appearance. there maybe a geniune reason why these two profiles have these chracteristics.

although there is no reason why a person cannot have more than one profile as long as all of the profiles do not abuse the forum.

[Sigma Freud]

erik/sigma - there are very few neuroscience pages on fb. none of which have a link to this site yesterday or in previous times. On search of keywords there is no facebook/psychology/neuroscience result - this may appear in listings in a day or two so this isn't a given.

Are you sure about that? You might want to look a bit harder considering I am actually a member of four different FB groups revolving around neuroscience and neuropsychology.

Our pictures are different sizes, yours are exactly the same

My picture is actually over 2,000 px and was resized by the site when I uploaded it. Nice try again.

your profiles, your writing styles too are the same. I could be wrong, but I doubt it. only the moderator will know for sure, re-ip address, location etc..

Please do check our IPs just so you can be proven wrong to your satisfaction.

[gone]

So the question is - why would a person have 2 profiles?
To express two sides of personality is out as they clearly talk the same.
To promote something - still a posibility.
To offer support - like walking into a bar with a friend instead of on your own
Derives a smug sense of satisfaction from such deception
Fancies himself as a female and gets satisfaction from the role play
Likes to play 'mind' games & more..
But whatever, welcome to the site sigma AND erik.

[Sigma Freud]

I repeat, please do check our IPs just so you can be proven wrong to your satisfaction.

To express two sides of personality is out as they clearly talk the same.

Clearly talk the same? It's called having an education my dear.

[gone]

Who likes to be proven wrong?
I don't mind actually as it's propelling a person to a new level of understanding, but I'm lazy so I won't take up you offer, no matter how many times you repeat it, but thanks. I like that you're the same person so I'll stick with that, it's more interesting, however ignorant.
Q. What sort of person calls people 'dear'
A. A man pretending to be a woman, that's who!
(Mrs Doubtfire comes to mind - as do all the drag queens in their stage performances)

[Sigma Freud]

You seem to know a lot about drag queens. Now I am understanding you better.

[ErikAndersen]

I am new to this site, would any forum regulars like to tell me what the rules are re: giving professional advice?

Hi,
I dont have many rules. these are the ones I can think of right now.

No spamming or marketing on the boards.

anything you talk about should not be deliberately offensive or harmful.

as for giving advice i will police that on a person by person basis.

I see you are a Village Elder, SWM

I do not know the other poster in question. That is all I would like to convey. Thanks, and this is a stimulating forum!

[Enigma]

My diagnoses is multiple internet personality disorder. 

[pert -5]

I see you are a Village Elder, SWM

Yeah, he is.  You can tell because his is the biggest hut and he gets first dibs on the game that the hunters return with.

[SWM]

I see you are a Village Elder, SWM

yes.

now, go fetch me...  

a shrubbery ... peasant.

[ErikAndersen]

I see you are a Village Elder, SWM

yes.

now, go fetch me... 

a shrubbery ... peasant.

Now now, let's keep the trolling to a minimum

[hortonpilot]

As always there is a bottom line.

Your happiness is your problem and responsibility, yours fairly much alone.

This is the point of human liberation and understanding.

At best you can fend off and manage things that compete for your happiness,and there will be times when you need to act.

Horton