need to test my girlfriend about her feelings to other guy

[Georgech08]

hello everybody and thx for reading this...

i have a girlfriend whom i love much.
I'm not a jealous guy at all and i trust her, but recently i found myself having gut feeling, that she likes other guy.
That guy is our friend and i can not discuss this with her - she'll be very upset if i'm wrong.

Facts i noticed are:
- mentioning him more often than other "same degree" friends
- smile on her face when i mention him
- she recently asked a question about his relationship with his girlfriend

So as you see i do not have many facts and as mentioned, this is only a gut feeling i have. Just can't get this out of my head.

I'm looking for an advice how to test her feelings to him. Some clever psycho method maybe... I was interested in NLP and have used some methods, so maybe I ask her some question and look at the way she answers me?

Thanks....

[hortonpilot]

This kind of stuff can be a mistake that goes wrong.
Tread carefully.

Do you need this kind of uncertainty in your life?
I think not .
Play a little hard to get.

[trace]

I had a gut feeling  about my wife once....Years ago my wife took a job after months off with our 3rd child.
The position  was in sales and she was so excited about getting back into the outside world if only for a part time
job.

 The first week she became so obsessed with her new boss, talking  about how smart and impressive he was, always telling me  how he was a lot like me, she dressed in a more seductive fashion
and behaved more overtly sexual towards me.
Of course at the time I responded to her .
 It was almost a ritual  she instilled as she would prepare herself to leave  each night...Knowing I was watching her as she showered, shaved  her body and dressed, we both  enjoyed it as a new excitement after the baby. 

She would come home later and later until we both knew it was nothing business related,or at least that was what I thought might be going on but she was just playing  a game right?

 she  started teasing me with scenarios of her and her boss getting physically involved ..this was very confusing as I was aroused but was also starting to see her differently, as her tone moved from mutual sexual fantasy talk - playful  to dominating tones bordering on hurtful or humiliating towards me. 

 Silently I wanted her to stop telling me these nasty stories during our lovemaking but i  wanted her to keep saying these things as it was new yet taboo. t She would do this over a period of weeks and months and I was out of my mind thinking  that I was almost wanting  her to be unfaithful.
Finally she made no attempt to hide her infidelity by not coming  home  until almost  4am - no doubt she had been seeing him,she bragged about it  -taunting me with her knew found confidence - a bravado if you will and a hint of disdain as she quoted her boss " He said if he was her  husband  he " would never let her out for other MEN to use "other men l!I was broken and falling into what I assumed was a latent submissive trait in myself!    -she was sleeping with the boss
and turned out had been cheating on me with over 6 - 10 men in the prior 2 years!

 Why did I hate myself for going along with the fiction version but the reality of a wife doing this to me was hurtful  especially if my body  got aroused thinking  about it..very confusing issue for me and her. we did divorce but  remain close almost 18 years later..she never remarried or lived with another man..