Does being same really mean to be soul-mate? I had a girlfriend who we born in the same day and in the same hospital. Everything was fine with her; in an extreme example sometimes we were communicating without talking which means we developed even telepathy in our relationship. But after a while everything started to be annoying for both of us. I think being soul mate is like being the half of an apple; one side is different of the other side but in the whole it is a delicious apple. I have also experienced being apple with someone else which was like fulfilling each other and by the same time being the same. You will have the question why I have lost mine other side of apple and the answer is that I am awful.
My comments don't include any scientific base; they are only production of my experiences!
Hello and nice to meet you!
If you and your ex-girlfriend were born on the same exact date - you are the same, meaning you have the same program. The only difference between man's and woman's programs is exactly the same as the difference between males and females of other live creatures present in nature. In my opinion, with time "everything started to be annoying for both" because you and your ex became more and more influenced by society and culture around you, adapting your
psychophysiology to external conditions. However, program in any case certainly demands it's own. The result of not knowing your own program is that everywhere in the society we run into absolutely unimaginable situations, which occur because of collisions of the above-stated – demands of the environment and requirements of the program of a person.
Often one does not even know what s/he is capable of, what s/he was born for, what qualities s/he possesses since birth. Often not realizing the possession of these qualities and not understanding how s/he could apply them, the person's potential is not used throughout his/her life. Hence, if one has no specific knowledge about personal qualities and abilities, it is possible that that person will spend the whole life trying to "find him/herself", "to find a place in life". However, in the end a person does not find and does not realize them. Because (1) it is an unrealistic task to try yourself out in all spheres of life and (2) one is strongly influenced by external conditions.
So, if you and your ex(s) specifically knew your own and each other's program you would not have problems in communication. Yes, one is most compatible with with someone who was born on the same day, simply because these two are the same. However, it is possible to be with anyone if you know your own and each other's programs because that is the only way to speak each other's language and to:
- to learn what the other person is in reality, to be able to see "inside", beyond the "facade", to understand who you are dealing with
- to precisely understand the motivational mechanisms of another person that force him to act
- to predict behavior of another person
- to understand, what to expect (to demand) from another, and what not to, because nobody is capable of going beyond their own program
- to precisely calculate how, in what areas and by what means to most effectively use this or that human resource
- to establish ideal communication