Problem: I don't care about anyone

[Tenderheart]

My problem is that I'm incapable of loving anyone. I don't care about the people in my life. I never miss anyone when they're gone or when I haven't seen them in a long time-- except some people that I've had huge crushes on. Even my dog I have never missed. I never grieved his death. He was my friend and I loved him but losing him didn't mean much to me. I don't know if I would feel sad if any of my friends or family members died.

Other people see me as a friendly and kind person. They probably think that I care about them. Some people have said that it's easy to talk to me about anything because of my nonjudgmentalness. In reality, I'm thinking in my head, "what an idiot you are, how can you say such stupid things!" but I don't show these thoughts. I just pretend to be interested and I just act friendly. In reality I am very irritated by all my friends. I feel like the more I get to know someone, the more I detest them and the less I want to be their friend.

Once I had a boyfriend. I was horrible to him. Told him all kinds of mean things that weren't even true, liked to control him. Felt irritated by his clinginess. Then I left him and only felt relieved to get him out of my life. Unfortunately he was in love with me and I had to put up with his frantic efforts to save our so-called relationship.

What is my problem? I don't want to be this way but I can't cotrol my feelings-- or the lack thereof.

[Tenderheart]

I can't be a sociopath because I can feel shame and remorse. Besides, I've never done or felt the need to do anything really bad, something to be put in jail for, for instance. I'm not violent and am actually quite shy. I can feel empathy, too. If I saw someone hurting an animal or a child, for instance, I would try to stop it. So I'm not a sociopath.

[ubiquity]

i have the same problem in a way. its really not that bad though disliking everyone as long as they dont know right? its funny reading this post because it sounds a lot like myself people consider me a very easy person to speak with yet i really dont like them. i do enjoy hearing about people though its not like im waiting for them to stop speaking during conversation or anything i just dont like the people talking or their reactions about what they are talking about. i always find faults in everyone and its not like i spend a lot of time looking either i always just felt it was because i dint know any decent people.

[sure]

Yeah! I EVEN HATE PEOPLE THINKING ABOUT ME.

[ubiquity]

what? you hate people thinking about you? well thats easily rectified, just dont do anything memorable.

[LipzLykeMorphine]

Wow, I'm in a situation almost the same. I thought it was depression, or just plain being selfishly selfish. I hate hanging out with my friends and family unless I'm benifiting big time out of it or a person I really like is included. Are you bored constantly?

[ubiquity]

well ya im bored pretty often but i think thats more for other reasons. but im definitely not depressed or anything and i cant be selfish or at least i hate taking from people, could still be considered selfish i guess cause i dont like giving either. my standards are just to high i think i notice moral flaws in people and hold it against them. but the things that they do really are pretty ridiculous its not like im grasping at air for reasons to dislike someone, and its not like im gonna try and tell someone that they are doing morally reprehensible things, i dont think thats my responsibility. also are you just saying people bore you? cause thats not rly me or anything i mean a lot of people are really boring so i get it but that is more of a matter of being selfish. but i understand, why would you wanna hang out with people that bore you.

[mardee]

My problem is that I'm incapable of loving anyone. I don't care about the people in my life. I never miss anyone when they're gone or when I haven't seen them in a long time-- except some people that I've had huge crushes on. Even my dog I have never missed. I never grieved his death. He was my friend and I loved him but losing him didn't mean much to me. I don't know if I would feel sad if any of my friends or family members died.

Other people see me as a friendly and kind person. They probably think that I care about them. Some people have said that it's easy to talk to me about anything because of my nonjudgmentalness. In reality, I'm thinking in my head, "what an idiot you are, how can you say such stupid things!" but I don't show these thoughts. I just pretend to be interested and I just act friendly. In reality I am very irritated by all my friends. I feel like the more I get to know someone, the more I detest them and the less I want to be their friend.

Once I had a boyfriend. I was horrible to him. Told him all kinds of mean things that weren't even true, liked to control him. Felt irritated by his clinginess. Then I left him and only felt relieved to get him out of my life. Unfortunately he was in love with me and I had to put up with his frantic efforts to save our so-called relationship.

What is my problem? I don't want to be this way but I can't cotrol my feelings-- or the lack thereof.

What you need to do is get over yourself. Your whole post was about YOU. My question is to YOU is "what have you done for anyone else?" By doing something good for someone will leave you feeling better abut YOU. After all, isn't that what your seeking is to feel good about YOU?

[Treymahl]

My problem is the same kinda.. My cat died and I was very very close to it but I didn't care...  I loved her but didn't care she died or anything.. I don't care about myself, death, life or anything.. I seem to only care about all the girls I have crush's on or my girlfriends... I just realized this, this morning. My mom was screaming at me cause I don't care about anything not even myself.. I can't figure out If its a serious problem or not cause I have been like this my entire life now that I think about it. I have noticed that when my life went downhill in-between 6th and 8th grade I was doing many drugs and going to lots of party's and getting in fights and getting in touble with the law. I joined a gang for a few months too.. It was really bad but then when I went into high school I guess I quit with all the drugs and fights and breaking the law. I still don't care about anything tho.. I love a lot of things but I just don't care about them... I have gone through counseling in the past and it didn't help any. I really wish I could find what's wrong with me. I have a like a love problem too... I get to far into a relationship then just mess it up.. I love some of my ex's and will do anything for them but I honestly don't care about them... I have many of the same things as you do. I have friends but don't care about them or their problems... I'm with you I want to know what my problem is? I hope things get better for you and you find out.