Should I trust old school friend Rich?

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Ok to start things of, I have plenty of faults of my own, and am going to see a therapist next week in the hope to deal with issues. I was a quiet, shy, sensitive kid at school, quite molly coddled, reclusive through out my teens and early 20's. Always had few friends at the most through college and uni, that came and went.

In my final year at uni I decided to move out of my dads house because I wasn't getting along with my stepmother, and get a house share with a guy I met at uni and his mates. I decided I would change for the better, be more sociable, make friends and network through my new house mates/friends, get laid. I met another friend called Gav through them, and found we got along well, and had more in common, particularly interest in hooking up with girls. I started hanging out with hiim and his couple of mates, going to the same indie scene clubs, where we would mainly gawk at girls waiting for one of them to come up to us instead having the balls to initiate . Seldom did this ever happen, what irritated me more was that over time gav kept on giving dating advice without backing it up, which I later found out he was just reciting online dating advice. In reality he wasn't the stud he made himself out to be and had only dated three girls, and been laid about three times, which was still better than me at the time, which was 0, I was a virgin.

Anyway I was kinda still proud of myself for how things had came along, for the first time, I had a group of friends to go out clubbing and were abit more social. Then I bumped into a guy I was kind of friends with at school, he still hung out with other guys from school, but had a major falling out with one of them, and was kind of ostracized from their group, he had seen me with the new friends I was hanging out with and I was happy to invite him to hang out with us, exchange numbers, and build my friends up.

But then he started telling my friends that he was my best friend at school and sat next to me in all my classes, in reality he did not, I was very much a loner through out school, and did not have a best friend, this kind of irritated me, especially as he hung out with a group at school that mainly looked down on me as quiet and weird. When I got back home that night I got a text from him, asking when I was out next, I knew rich was desperate to have people to go out with, but what he did earlier got up my back, so I decided to make him wait for another week until telling him when I was out.

Rich eventually ended up hanging out with us more consistently, Gav got on my nerves more at the time, by making out he was great with women, yet I rarely seen him with one, I decided to point out to gav one night that you only made with fat chicks, do you have thing for them? very hypocritical at the time of me as I hardly made out with any. My school mate Rich said at the time "that everyone must of done a fat chick at least once" I think Rich thought I came of as arrogant at the time, and kind of sided with Gav as he thought well atleast he's not arrogant and doesn't set his standards high. He never actually said that but looking back on it, I knew thats what he thought.

As a result they kind of bonded more, when meeting up with us for nights out he would deliberately go up to Gav and shake his hand first before shaking mine, sometimes not even shaking mine, Rich even said once that if he was doing anything for his birthday, he would invite him, subtly not inviting me. Rich stopped hanging out with both me and Gav and our little group. He stopped responding to texts.

I continued just hanging out with Gav and our little group of four, for the next couple of years, beyond uni, going to the same clubs and pub, each weekend, doing the same thing, standing in a circle staring at each other on a dance floor, one night I seen my other mate in the group Mark dance with some girl, and tried to kiss her, but he got brushed of, Gav immediately went in to try and sneak in, which he would irritatingly do quite a lot but with no success, I watched him get brushed of as well, but then he went and tried to tell everyone that in fact he made out with her and lied.

I tried to tell everyone that in fact he never, along with Mark, to avoid the embarrassment he had, the next week he tried dropping of hints to the group that I was still a virgin, something he knew I was insecure about, they all kind of subtlety found out, I never mentioned him getting brushed by that girl again, he played on this insecurity for next year.

I was so depressed at the time, then I got a surprise text from Rich asking how I was doing, I was kinda of relieved, I seen this as a way out of Gavs group, I invited him out for a night out with us doing the same boring things in the same club staring at each other, I watched Gav tried to subtlety to tell Rich that I was a virgin.

The next week Rich text me asking if wanted to come out with him, and that he thought I night with Gav would be boring, we went out, I enjoyed myself alot better, I could tell Rich was trying to help me get laid, we would get completely drunk on our nights out, to the point where I'd vomit, we'd have drunken conversations about life, he'd bring up how arrogant he thought gav was and how deluded he was about women. He reflected on my behavior, saying that I was waiting each week for a beautiful model to come up to me expecting to get laid, and that I was setting only high standards, and should concentrate getting laid even if it was a fat chick, and to not have Gav's attitude. I agreed with him on this and took it constructively.

He would Gav each week, and went on about how much he despised him, I think he felt sorry for me, as he could see what Gav was doing to me. One strange thing thoe, is that Rich likes the image of himself being a manipulator, and would even tell everyone jokingly and I'm just a "manipulative bastard".
He would bring up my insecurities each week, like to put school bullies behind me, even when I made no mention of them. He would brag about how many times he has gotten laid. He say things like  "I don't think of you as some depressive, boring, quiet guy" Which I was, but he would say things like things like that at unrelated times, and start preaching to me about having higher self esteem. This behaviour has kind of made me wary of him, and I'm thinking should I really trust him? he did eventually helped me get laid, and hooked with more girls in the 6 months I was hanging out with Rich than the 3 years I hung out with Gav.

What I don't get at the time is he pretended he never knew I was a virgin at the time, until one drunken night, he asked have you ever been with a woman, and I told him the truth. When he brought Gav, I tried confronting him, that he actually got on better with him than me, and it was me thought that arrogant before, he denied this and went on about despise for Gav, and that the only reason he hung out with with us was because of me. I don't entirely believe all this.

Some time before, I decided to move country and try to make a new start and put all this behind me, I told him I was moving, he seemed disappointed by the expression on his face. We keep in contact over Facebook, and says that misses me. I would like to think when I go back to visit I do have a genuine friend, as I don't really have any other friends. But I still can't help but not trust him.

Should I trust Rich?