Understanding the Situation

[thatsoweird]

I know, what a vague title. But I think it just shows how confused I am about this current situation that I've found myself it.
Background: My bestfriend agreed to move in with me in march, but for the month of May, initially I was wary but because of financial issues, and the fact that it would help both of us out, i agreed.
May comes and she's paid rent, but hasn't moved in. In early June I confront her telling her that she should move in, help pay for utilities in the place because its getting too much for me to handle alone. She says she will but says now she doesn't trust me. This was in reference to me looking at other places to live, since the costs were high at my current place, which was only because she hadn't moved in yet. So she assures me that she'll move in. And gives me the rent for June. Its June 10th and she still hasn't moved in.

Since the beginning on June, my landlord has been doing some pretty sketchy things, to the extent where i feel uncomfortable living there. I brought this up with bestfriend and she agreed that I should leave. So we found another place to live, together. It was an easy fix since it was a friends place and he needed two new roomates. So we scheduled a meeting for last wednesday night. Because of everyone's busy schedules it was up to me to arrange a time. So i did, then best friend tells me she can't make it, and I tell her that unfortunately we will have to do it tonight as others are leaving for 2 weeks, and won't be back until June 28, and we will have to move in July 1st. She told me her issues and I assured her i would bring them up at the meeting. That night she tells me she's moving into her Uncles. Shocking, but i had to respect that decision. Now she is asking me for all her rent back from the previous place, saying that I have ripped her off and that I used her. I responded by saying that we had an agreement, and she voluntarily gave me the money. Now i am concerned, I am pretty sure the relationship is over, but now feel obligated to return this money. However, I think she is being very irrational in this situation, which confuses me since we read a lot of psychology and philosophy, which i apply to my every day life.

It concerns me that someone with the same values as me, is now targeting me as bad person. This confuses me since I do believe I am a good person, and have tried to accommodate her and her schedule. As I am a student, I don't have this money, the landlord does. I'm looking for some insight into this situation, or possible similar situations that people have had. She has decided to cut communication with me, but will send me the odd email demanding something or another. This is causing me a lot of stress, and I am finding it very difficult to deal with. Please help?

Thanks

[liza123]

Have you had a "heart to heart" talk with her?if you cannot do it through phone, write it out and send it through e-mail. tell her what you feel. her reaction might due to various reasons : influence of someone(making her believe that you ripped her off), she is having some financial or other serious problem in her life and it is affecting her.

the best thing to do would be to talk to her. she is your best friend. so, give it a last shot to see what happens.

ps-people change sometimes and start to behave differently for some reason or another. perhaps, it is some sort of phase in life. i do not know. as a matter of fact, i do not even know if my above suggestion is appropriate(since i do not know you or your friend personally, etc). you are the best judge of my suggestion...