What do you do when two men love/like you?

[itsUp2Me]

Hello all, I've been here for help to do with my ex-bf... In this topic below:
http://psychology-forum.com/relationships/need-advice-on-how-to-let-go-how-to-build-trust-to-person-who-betrayed-it/new/?topicseen#new

Now I'm struggling with a complicated situation to do with 2 guys.

After I broke up with my ex-bf (to which we both came to a mutual agreement to break up), the reasons were just too many (if you've noticed from my other thread- it's mainly due to lack of trust, my parents etc.)...

My other best friend- (let's call him 'T' for now), I have known him for 7-8 years now... In the past- we were both interested in each other but didn't know how the other felt/didn't want to risk losing friendship/ didn't have alot of feelings-just 'interested' that was all, and also due to circumstances, it wasn't right timing for me yet. Everyone thought he would be my bf one day because T and I were getting along all the time.

Now... T has asked me out and I had agreed right on the spot. Because we both expressed interest in each other but weren't sure how we'd go as a couple... My ex-bf knows about T and encourage me to give T a chance because he wants me to be happy (and he 'thought' I must really like T).

But I found out only recently that my ex-bf still loves me. And that the reason he agreed to our break-up was because he didn't believe we could be together... He even lied making himself sound like a bad guy in order for me to leave him (but in actual fact- he isn't a bad guy). He loved me but thought that I wouldn't be happy if I stay with him, and he didn't want me to start arguments with my parents if we were together (my parents refused him just because his family is from a poor background).
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... I am confused. 

Because I know there are too many issues that needs to be resolved with my ex-bf and it's going to take alot of hardwork. My parents do not like him as well because his family is not from a wealthy background.
My 'MIND' knows I cannot be with him. My 'HEART' still have lingering strong feelings for him.

T- on the other hand, is someone who has always made me laugh, is financially stable and my parents seem to like him.
My 'MIND' knows I should be with him. My 'HEART' does not have strong feelings towards him- only interested.

I admit, I am afraid of what it will be like with T in Relationship-status AND I do not wish to risk losing friendship with him. But at the same time, he has always been my type of guy... yet I just... don't have strong feelings for him becoz' my heart is still thinking about my ex-bf.

May someone tell me what is the best option for me to do?
For now, I've considered not being with either of them.... would you agree with my decision??

[pert -5]

For what it's worth: I have seen many, many girls come to the same conclusion about their ex.  In most instances the guy is just leading you on, or you are justifying inexcusable action.  IMHO, whenever I see girls chase after their ex in this manner, there is a 1/6 chance of a successful reconciliation.  Sure, you might get back together.  But, if it is not certain to you, and this T guy is around, a perfect restart with your ex is like a game of Russian Roulette with 5 out of the 6 chambers loaded.  So, if this T guy floats your boat, go for it-- if it is on par with you.  But be wary with your ex.

[TheSandman]

Seems like you got two low quality men. One of them hanging around 7-8 years not knowing what to do and your ex-bf hanging around.

In medieval times, a man was a man and a woman was a woman. Nowadays women are still women but a man is not a man.

[wittoled]

What's the rush/problem?  You be you and let them be them and eventually, with or without either of them or whomever else, you'll know what to do.  Even then there's no guarantee.  Enjoy!