Hellow everybody! I'm a 30 Year old gay man. I lived on couple for 4 years with ups and downs as every other couple.
When we where just 3 months together my partner used to received phonecalls from a "friend" even once while we where making love he got one call and he interrupt everythig to get the call from this "friend". that awoke on me alot of suspission and I did what shouldnt have done, look through his email and I found lots of emails where both exchanged hot conversations. Back in the day I confronted my parter with the print outs of all the emails. he cried lots and beged for forgiveness. We moved on for almost 3 years and a half and UI have to say the everynow and then there was something funny on his behaviour and when that happened I would do my little research and everytime found some evidence, like text messages on his mobile, a website to meet old guys, and so on. Long story short last January I went on a business trip for 15 days, we would call eachother everyday. One of these days he told me that one of his co-workers was staying at home to sleep and I agreed on that because he used to be a good friend of both of us. When I returned from my trip I foud all the sheets and pillows from the gust bedroom untouched. and I asked my partner at least five times on duifferent ocassions, if our friend slept on the guest room or not, he would get nervous and reply everysort of things. I told him that the sheets and pillows were untouched from the last time we used them ( cause was me who took care of the household ) to that he answered that he didn' use them that ur friend had slpet on top of the bed just like that. One night we were having some wine and relaxing I told him tio tell me the truthy and he told me that actually they had both slept together in our bed, on that very moment I felt like banishing, rage, sadeness and everything in between. I got mad because this friend Loved to tuch my partner even if I was there.
So I guess that is impossible to descrive everything in a few lines, my question is:
1) all of the events that I described aboved I have irrefutable evidence of his misconduct and I would have loved to have recorded his confession.
Why now he tells me that everythig is a truth that I put together be be able to leave him and start a new life with my new couple? He tells me that he hates me, that he has a serious depression that is causing him to loose weight non stop because of me and that I'm the worst person on the face of the earth. All of this things hurt me alot cause I guess I still love him, I love him as a friend. Could someone please try to give me some sort of explanation, I know that the information that I provided is not much.
Thanks alot!
All my best to everyone!